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Have you though about what is stopping you from approaching women?

I would hazard a guess that one reason men hesitate in approaching women is that they have a deep down fear of rejection.

We all want to be accepted and liked and popular, but the world doesn’t work that way.

If the one thing that is stopping you from going up to that gorgeous woman and talking to her is your fear that she will reject you, then there is only one thing to do:

Expect rejection.

I want you to expect that when you go up to that woman she probably is not going to give you her phone number. And that is OK.

What you need to do is change your goal. If you change the game plan so that the goal is not to get a woman’s phone number, you area already ahead of the game.

Here is what your new goal will be: Your new goal is to successfully go up and have a conversation with a woman. Period. Nothing else. It can only be for five minutes. It can last for 2 hours. The goal is to go talk to a woman and that is it.

You can succeed at this goal. I know you can. It is not about getting a phone number. It is about having a conversation.

The main point I am trying to make is one that all of us need to learn at some point or other in our lives – we have no control over other people or how they react to what we say or do. The only control we have is over ourselves. We can only control what we say and do. If someone, say a woman, chooses to respond to us in a way we like, then that is great. But if a woman chooses to respond in a way we don’t like, well, guess what? That is fine, as well.

The key to successfully approaching a woman is to not make a big deal about it. After all, your goal is to talk to a woman for a few minutes or however long. It is not about meeting you future wife (though that may be a result) or about getting a date for Saturday night (again, that may happen), but the goal is to simply talk to a woman for a few minutes.

If you truly believe this and make this your goal, you will automatically give off an attitude of confidence and nonchalance. You will seem like the kind of guy who goes up and talks to women just for the heck of it, because guess what? You do.

This will actually be more appealing than you can imagine to a woman. Women are used to men approaching them wanting something 100 percent of the time. If you just approach her, have a conversation and leave, she will be intrigued.

I’m not saying that if you see her continue looking at you that you shouldn’t go back and get her number of maybe you’ll see her again at another time. The point is you have accomplished your goal and became a man of intrigue at the same time.

Bill has been studying How to Approach Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: What Stops You From Approaching Women?.

Besides looking good, what are the male attributes that women find so attractive? Really, what do women want in a man?

This above questions must have been pondered upon by every straight man since the begining of time. Have you thought of that?

Ok, I concede that while nobody could in anyway answer this question with anything resembling a complete answer, there are certain traits and attributes of a man which women find very appealing that are generally agreed upon by most psychologists and as well as from women themselves. This can give us, the mostly clueless male species some good insights into the female mindset.

So what do women want in a man? High up on the list is confidence. In a woman’s eye, a confident man is a very appealing man. What I mean is genuine confidence. Let me explain. You see, most men either have very little confidence in themselves or carry around a false sense of confidence in their attempts to impress women.

When approaching a gorgeous girl that they have never met before, most men will just freeze up somewhat or some will strut over to her with chests puffed up and peacock feathers all flustered to impress her with corny pick up lines like, “Can I buy you a drink?” kind of false bravado. Get the idea?

Women want to see real confidence in a man’s behavior and attitude. They are very sensitive to true confidence instead of false bravado. Even if you are a good actor and can fake your confidence pretty well at first, any woman you approach and begin spending time with will soon learn of your “true colors” very quickly.

Having confidence is much more than thinking that you are the most attractive man on earth or believing that you can achieve certain objectives. A genuinely confident man will share his opinions without being argumentative, enjoys intellectual debates and is always open to new ideas because they are so truly confident that no new ideas can scare them. Being geuninely confident is thought to be perhaps the most attractive attribute a man can have in attracting women.

Next on the list women find attractive in a man is, affection. Showing affection to a woman is not just a matter of physical touch or emotional connection, but is a complex mixture of the two elements. Women want to know that they are being appreciated and this comes through affection, closeness and good bonding of trust and feelings.

So do learn a woman’s likes and dislikes and direct your actions and behaviour to these ways. Of course, this does not mean mean that you have to be too compromising. It is a matter of give and take. To give and take is not a 50-50 issue, or that you are always giving to her. It is that sometimes you give 75 and sometimes you take 75. Otherwise, by giving too much, you will become a wussy (wimp) in her mind. A wussy man is certainly not an attractive man and is a turn off to most women.

An example of a small gesture that shows affection would be something like you wanted to go to take her to a sports game, but she wanted to watch a movie, so you compromised and take her to the movie instead. After the movie, you take her home and let her know that you are going to the sports game now and she will really appreciate that.

However, do not compromised too much and often. As I said, it is a give and take matter and she will know it and appreciate it. Any pains you take to show true affection will be well rewarded and she will feel special and appreciated. That a very powerful true attraction.

The next attribute women find very appealing in a man is that the man must be able to offer her a sense of security. Women these days are very independant and it is now no longer true that a man must provide everything for his woman. So being able to provide security these days means much more than just bringing home the bread and bacon or standing up for her and protecting her.

Your woman will want to know that you are going to work at least as hard as she is to get the good things in life for her and for your eventual family. If she finds that you are constantly job hopping or cannot stay on a job for long, chances are that she will drop you like a bombshell once another man who can give a sense of security shows up at the door!

Although most women do not need to take money from their men anymore, it is still very crucial for a man to prove that he can provide when the situation arises.

Of course there are many more male attributes and traits that are appealing and attractive to women. The above are just some examples for you to ponder over about what type of men women like.

Chris Chew is a fitness, health and relationship consultant. Read his free articles at Human Pheromone Cologne and Sex Appeal Alpha Male

I am sure you will agree that to make a woman fall for you, she must first take a liking to you. So how do you make a girl like you or even know that she already likes you?

There many powerful ways to seduce a woman to like you or even fall in love with you. In this article, we will discuss one of the ways. That is done by assuming that she already likes you regardless whether she really does or not.

Well, if you already know her, then go for the kiss. If she kisses back, then you know that she already likes you.

Hold on. I know what is on your mind. You are thinking isn’t this common sense? Of course it is. Then why are there so many guys so hesitant to try this out and still being kept in the dark whether or not the women like them too?

You see, you must first do something before you go for the kiss. The trick is to make the woman actually want to kiss you more than you want to kiss her. This is where you prepare her for the moment and this preparation makes all the difference.

In the game of seduction and flirting, this preparation technique is called “conditioning the woman”. This is a must learn powerful psychological flirting skill to learn and know if you want to immediately make a woman like you. It is like casting a love binding spell on her.

So to go about it, your first objective is to set the stage for attraction by putting up a situation for her to enter. In order to do that, you have to set your own situation. You see, “conditioning the woman” puts you in a position of power. When you do something to spark a woman’s attraction, you don’t have to ask if she likes you or not.

Therefore, the trick is to make her go with your flow and not the other way around. This means that you act as if she already likes you. Even assuming that unknown to you, she already likes you, you still need to keep the situation of the flow under your control.

In other words, if you act and talk like you already “know” that the she likes you, she will soon be entering that “conditioning” mode herself without even her realizing it. This is because your whole body language and demeanor changes when you shift your mindset from doubting her attraction for you to knowing for sure that she is into you.

Think about it carefully. Don’t you think your composure and the way you act and behave will be different around a girl who’s chasing you? You will be more relaxed and your banter will be more natural, isn’t it? Since you are in this relaxed state, you will even be more receptive to the little things she puts out to show that she is interested in you, right?

If you are in this conditioning mindset composure when you talk to a girl, you will start to notice how she is moving closer to you, touching your hand playfully and laughing a little more than usual. Now, you will not notice these small flirting signals if you don’t assume attraction on her part, because you would be too caught up wondering if she likes you or not.

So if you missed those signals, then she may mentally think that you are not interested and file you up in her mind that you are just a “friend”. When that happens, it will be very difficult to change her mental programing from a friend to a potential lover.

I am sure you must have you heard how some guys say, “You are hitting me, right?” to women with a voice so confident that they have the girls giggling? These guys do look like cocky jerks to some people, but to the girls they are talking to, they are funny or else the girls wouldn’t be giggling and laughing, isn’t it?

Now, you must be fully aware that most women do know what is happening and try to place you inside their own conditioning mode. It is a mental game and whoever blinks first loses.

You see, many women do this metal conditioning of power play by saying, “Oh yeah? Prove that you like me, go buy me a drink.” That is just an example of how a girl plays this flirting mind trick. She is in effect trying to make you feel that you are not good enough to date her if you don’t get her something first. Now if you give in and get her the drink, you have already been put into her conditioning situation. In this way, she is exerting her power on you and you get stuck as a wussy subordinate and girls are not attracted to wussy men.

This flirting skill is so powerful and effective that if you use it correctly and naturally, you can change your seduction game from good enough to absolutely fail proof success with girls.

There are some guys who are so good at it that they simply suck everyone around into their condition situation attracting the best looking girls. You too can be one of these irresistible guys if you can master the skills of making girls fall for you.

Chris Chew is a fitness, health and relationship consultant. Read his free articles at Flirt Seduce Women and Get Perfect Male Body Girls Like

There are a thousand and one ways of meeting girls. Guys who want to meet new girls for friendship or for any reason should look for girls in places where they always hang around.

Girls can be found in the library, supermarket, parking lot, restaurant, shops and similar places. They usually hang around in places where they can meet their friends and have fun. If you want to pick up girls in a surrounding that is generally friendly and harmless, then there is nowhere to go but the malls.

Malls are one of the in things to meet friends these days because of the convenience it offers to everyone. It is a one stop shop area for those who want to hang around or do some shopping. There are many girls in the mall including girls who work in the various shops or girls just hanging out or doing their thing.

Specific areas in the mall where one can pick up girls

Parking lot

The mall parking lot is a good place to pick up girls. It is the first place you go to when you go to a mall. Girls who are about to go shopping or hang inside the malls have to go the parking area first before getting inside. Those who are finished with their shopping will also have to go to the parking lot to get their cars.

Be decent when picking up girls especially in the parking lot as you may be mistaken for jack the ripper. Most girls avoid males who converse with them openly in parking lots despite not knowing them. If you want to be taken seriously, try pick up lines that would not offend girls. Look for ways to comment on her car. If you are lucky and you are observant, you can tell her she forgot to put off her light or any similar lines.

Supermarket

The supermarket is the most likely place where you can pick up girls. On weekends, you can go there anytime you like because single girls generally buy their groceries during weekends. You can also visit the mall supermarket during weekdays, particularly during lunch breaks. This might be a little awkward since girls usually hang out with friends and you just have to be smart enough to get past her friends and get to know her name and contact number.

You can hit two birds at the same and make your girl hunting less obvious by buying some groceries yourself. Girls like men who know how to cook and you can always use your cooking skills to impress them. Or if you are not a good cook, then you can use it by asking the girl next to you about the other things that you should buy if you want to cook pasta. A good conversation can start from their and who knows, you might get so lucky and get to take her home for dinner.

Food court

You will surely meet girls in the food court or other restaurant inside the mall. The ideal time to meet them is during lunch time as they are sure to go there by themselves or with some friends to take a bite. Food courts are generally filled with people during these hours so why not share a table with a friendly gal or two? You can start a conversation while eating lunch. This would be advantageous for you since girls will think it safe and natural to talk to whomever they are breaking bread with.

Bookstore

If you love books then go to the mall bookstore and try to pick up not just a book but also a girl. Girls love going to bookstores if only to buy pens, trinkets, pocketbooks, notebooks and other things. You can browse over some books and start a conversation with a girl near you who is also looking at the same kind of books.

If you see a girl browsing over a paperback of Dan Brown’s Da Vinci Code or any other author, then you can tell her how interesting the book is and how it has kept you up in one night.

Coffee shop

Girls go to coffee shops not just for their specialty coffee but to be seen. Girls hang out at coffee shops like Starbucks and Seattle’s Best to hang around with their friends and also to meet new friends. This might be an opportune time not only to drink coffee but also to pick up girls.

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I consider myself a generally smart and savvy guy. I’m good at listening, and I give good advice. So you can imagine how frustrated and surprised I would become in college when my female friends would tell me to shut up and just listen to them. Why were they telling me their problems if they didn’t want advice? Even worse, sometimes my girlfriends would seem to be speaking Orwellian Doublespeak. They’d say one thing, and mean another, or ask me questions I couldn’t possibly answer correctly. What was going on? What was I missing? Luckily, I’ve figured out a few things since college, so here’s the low-down on what girls generally mean when they want to talk.

Back in college I had a great friend called Mara. Great in that she was very patient with me. She was telling me some drama she was going through, and I butted in with what I thought was some excellent advice that would solve it. She stared at me, and kindly told me to shut up. She then informed me, speaking slowly as if to a child, that she didn’t want my advice. She didn’t want to know what to do. All she wanted to do was vent. I was a listening wall, supposed to just nod and make noises of commiseration, and she said she’d specifically ask me for advice if she wanted it, otherwise I should just stay quiet. And I realized that was true for most women. One thing they hate is how us guys always want to tell them what to do, cutting them off mid-delivery, giving them simple, effective advice. Wrong! What they want is sympathy and understanding and compassion, not practical advice. So unless your friend specifically asks you what you think she should do? Just listen, pay attention, and be quiet.

Guys are literal. If you ask a dude how he’s doing, and he says, “I’m fine,” then, yes, he’s fine. If you ask a woman how she’s doing, and she says, “I’m fine,” then watch out. Women speak in emotional subtexts. Don’t just listen to the words she says, but rather, focus on the tone. If she says “I’m fine,” with a bright, sunny smile? Then she’s fine. If she says, “I’m fine,” in a clipped, cold way, staring out the window? Big trouble. Listen to the tone. If she sounds sad, then no matter what she says, she is sad. If she tells you she hates you with a grin on her face? Then she means you drive her crazy in a great way.

Which leads us to the trick questions. Girls will often test us men by asking us questions and hoping we understand they mean something else. Basically, they again want you to focus on what really matters, what’s not being said, and not just think about the question literally. If she asks whether you would rather stay home tonight and watch TV then go out to the dinner date you had planned because you’re tired? She’s probably looking for you to rise to the occasion and take her out, and will be upset if you choose to stay home, even though she made it sound like that was fine. Often, “We don’t have to…” means “Show me you want to…” Listen to her tone, look at her expression. Almost, almost, ignore the words.

These kind of questions can range from the infamous, “Does this sweater make my ass look big?” to the much more deadly, “Do you think we should take some time apart?” after a fight. Remember. Don’t listen to the words. Don’t be literal. Look at her face, read her expression, listen to her tone. The questions and meaning are never explicit, but implicit. Deduce what she really means from the visual and audible clues. Read what she wants, and answer that need. Which means you have to really learn to listen, to go beyond the words, and focus on what’s important, what she cares about–and what you should care about.

It comes down to a difference between us, literal and straight forward guys, and them, emotional and complex women. This does not mean all women are like this, or even like this all the time; but when it comes to emotional needs, when it comes to relationships, often women will try to get a sense of where you are before putting their own opinions forward. And the way they do this is by drawing you out with questions and statements or even fights that to us feel like tests. But in reality, what they’re doing, is simply figuring us out. And to avoid bungling it all up? We just have to listen really carefully, and figure out what it is they’re figuring out. See? Simple.

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There is no mistaking a distinct signal that comes from deliberate body language. Body language speaks the truth and sends an unmistakable message without the need to utter any comment.

From the day we are born body language plays a significant factor in communicating our most basic requirements. A one month old baby instinctively knows that the way to its Mothers heart is through her eyes. The baby also knows that when it is hungry, crying is used as communicating this message.

While we can control our body language to a fair degree, one thing we can’t control is our pupils – yes, one of the most subtle signs that someone is attracted to you is in the eyes. Nancy Fagin writes on the BBW Magazine website: “One of the obvious signs of physiological attraction is enlarged pupils. There are two main factors that cause our pupils to dilate, attraction and dim light. To confirm whether you think someone’s eyes are dilating, try and do some subtle comparisons with others in the same room.”

Before all the modern day conveniences of communicating such as social networking, Twitter and online dating sites, real time face to face forms of expressions were all we knew. 30 years ago, the most common way to determine mutual attraction was partly due to body language, nowadays, dating and meeting new people has become all too easy thanks to technology.

Body language certainly goes beyond the eyes for you to be able determine attraction. Who would have ever thought that feet would play such a role in the land of love and romance! Feet stare too so if the person you are talking to is standing with their feet aiming at you, they have you well and truly in their sights.

Regardless of the body part, every part of our body will subconsciously send out a signal that will often determine whether we are attracted to someone or not. If something points at another person, whether it be our legs or feet, there is a certain level of interest being assessed.

While body language comes in subtle variations, there are also obvious signs that cannot be mistaken. If you are trying to send a distinct message to someone but you’re not quite ready to come out and say it, try talking to them facing your whole body towards them with your shoulders lining the other person up. If you notice they are reciprocating the body language then it’s as good as them telling you out loud “c’mon, hurry up and ask me out.”

When someone feels compelled to subconsciously copy our body language it’s a sure bet that they are feeling very comfortable around you and do in fact like you. This tell tale sign of mirroring someone can be used as a positive signal both in romance and in the business world.

Touch is another big cue. If the person finds any excuse to touch you (like removing a bit of lint from your clothing) this is a sign that they’re keen. Touch is used by singles in the flirting stakes to communicate interest. So learn to read the signs…from top to toe, our bodies always tell the truth.

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After divorce, the word “dating” scares a lot of people.

If you’ve been married a long time you probably have lost track of all the unwritten rules or even how to go about meeting new eligible people. Many people immediately take off for the clubs thinking that that is the place they are going to meet someone. You may meet someone there, but it depends on what you are looking for.

Assuming that the divorce has left you wondering what to do with the rest of your life, a trip to the club may be what the doctor ordered to see what is going on in the world. Don’t think, however, that this is where to find the woman or man of your dreams, as this rarely happens at the clubs.

Look around you. Who are your friends? Is there someone you think is attractive but are afraid to ask out on a date?

I have always found that an initial casual non-date is the best way to break the ice. “Hey I’m taking off for lunch would you like to join me?” That is a very simple way to break the ice with someone, in my opinion, and it gives you a chance to see if this person really is who you thought they were.

Their reaction, whether “Yes I would” or “No I can’t” will tell you something, and then you can take it from there. If the answer is yes, and you hit it off at lunch – then that simply no-strings-attached meal will have laid the groundwork for asking her/him out for a date in the near future.

It’s not rocket science. If you are like me, your friends always have someone they’d like you to meet.

I took the opportunity to meet everyone I could after my husband died. You never know when the right person might come along. It often happens when you least expect it and not when you’re out looking for that special person.

The important thing to do when you start dating again is not to immediately get yourself tied down. In the rare chance that you do meet the girl/guy of your dreams, then just go for it. That is a rare event, so take your time and explore your options and meet a number of people and enjoy the diversity of personalities, likes and dislikes.

I have been successful in maintaining a few good casual relationships and enjoy the company of these friends from time to time. I explore different vacation places, learn from their experiences and share opinions, desires and goals.

You’d be surprised at how many people have things they’d like to do, but never did because there was no one to do them with. By exchanging ideas and dreams and those things in your bucket list, you may find that you have a common desire to do something or travel somewhere.

There’s nothing better than visiting a place that you’ve never been and sharing it with someone who is also seeing it for the first time. I also enjoy seeing places I never knew I was interested in but my friend was, and I ended up being pleasantly surprised with the trip.

So the whole thing about dating again is to keep an open mind and explore the world, because it is probably all new to you now, especially after years of marriage.

RoseMary Alberts lives in Florida and has a lifetime of dating experiences in her rear view mirror. As a attractive and young 50-year-old, she enjoyed the single life through most of her twenties and for the last ten years, since the death of her late husband. For no strings dating, she recommends: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/

My nineteenth anniversary will be here in a week and a half.

So what’s so exceptional about that in Mormon Utah? Just this: I have a mail-order husband. He has a mail-order bride.

Nineteen years ago, there weren’t any dating sites online; in fact, there wasn’t any online to put them on.

So I bought a copy of the Mensa directory and went systematically through every male in the book, looking at the coded information for men within five years one way or the other of my age, widowed or divorced (because a man who is 40 and has never married has something wrong with him), shared my religion, shared at least three interests, and was in biorhythm sync with me at lest half the time.

I wound up with ten names.

I prepared letters to each of them and, despite my fourteen-year-old daughter’s “Mom, you’re not going to MAIL those letters. MOM, you’re not going to mail those letters. Mom, you’re NOT going to mail those letters,” I mailed them.

I got four responses: a gay man, a man who had been excommunicated for being caught in bed with his sister-in-law, a teacher who had been in the Peace Corps in Africa and wanted to go back to Africa and “Gee, you must make a lot of money writing mysteries.” The fourth was Tom.

I sat down in the living room laughing as I read the letter from Tom.

When my father asked what was so funny, I said, “Daddy, I think I’m going to marry this man.”

Ten years ago online dating services still weren’t available.

But my favorite college student, out of all the students I taught, met a man from Australia on a science fiction website. They were married five months later. Heidi moved to Australia and so far, has lived happily ever after. I met her husband a few months ago, and I think she’s going to continue to live happily ever after.

Two years ago, online dating services were going great guns. A neighbor of ours, getting ready to move to Alaska and knowing the male-female ratio there, signed up for the dating service. He and his bride headed for Alaska two weeks after getting married and are still there.

What do I think of online dating services? I think good ones are great.

I often hear people say “I fell in love at first sight.” But they didn’t. What they fell into was lust. Good arranged marriages during Medieval and Renaissance times worked better than most marriages spawned in our modern age – online or offline.

A good dating service can do just what I did, only a lot faster because it can use the computer. It can match people for what they identify as important to them. It can screen out pairs that look surface compatible, but have underlying incompatibilities.

When Tom and I married, we were not yet in love with each other. But we knew that we had enough things in common that we could build a workable marriage. That is what we did, and we grow more in love with each other every day.

An online dating service can’t provide someone you can love at first sight, but it can provide someone with whom you have enough in common that you can build a workable marriage. You just have to do the work.

Denice Ritter lives with her husband Tom in Utah. She teaches at the local college and writes freelance in her spare time. If you are looking for online adult dating opportunities, she recommends the website: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/

Behind every man, there is a strong women.

After my recent split with my girlfriend of two years I have found myself thinking how much I have changed. At first, I just thought I was only different around her, but now I seem to be a totally different person.

Does being in such a serious relationship make a man change? Obviously spending a lengthy period of time with anyone will change a certain aspect of your life, whether it be something trivial, your fashion sense or in my case my masculinity.

I believe I was so infatuated with this woman, and I spent so much time with her that I actually became “One of the girls”. At first I guess it sounds pretty bad, but really its not. The easiest way to have an understanding of women is to spend time with them, hang out with them. You pick up their habits and every women wants a man to go watch a chick-flick with them, and not with someone who is going to pretend to be interested.

Picking up a female’s habits are really not that bad though, you might find yourself talking to her about hair and clothes, but the first thing you will notice is that you actually do take much better care of yourself, and you have become a lot more polite. These are the most obvious and the beginning signs that she is starting to “mold” you.

Whether a women wants to admit it or not, when they are in a relationship with a man, they see us for what we are and then they see the potential. They like to change a man to make him more attractive, for their pleasure and maybe their reputation… I don’t know, but its true.

You will find yourself dressing in clothes that she has picked for you which “improve” your appearance, but do they? I doubt that there is one guy out there who hasn’t received a bad present from a partner, the majority of these will be clothes, matching jumpers, bright shirts, floral patterns and the dreaded skinny jeans.

I used to be a long haired surfer dude, (who couldn’t surf), and now with the “guidance” of that special lady I have short neat hair, and I guess you could say I dress preppy. Huge transformation?

Well I can let you into a secret, most men can – but a lot of us can’t – learn how to say no! Tell her enough is enough, unless you want to change.

Think of it this way, the A-list celebs we all see on TV don’t pick their own clothes, they have personal shoppers – women they pay to tell them what to wear! And us the lucky guys have it free.

I’m not just saying that women control what we wear, they also control what we eat, our mannerisms and the way we look at other women. Well done girls!

I can honestly say some women have such power to make a man look at the floor when a hot women walks into the room! I know this because I was with a very “powerful” woman.

But if you know how to control it you can avoid it, and another secret women think we don’t know is that they indirectly use sex as a weapon. Think of that however you might, but it’s true. Women control us, and we let them, and we love them for doing it. It does make us better people, and we love them for it.

One day women will rule the world, although at the moment it may be from behind the scenes. Either way, no man will ever be more powerful, than the woman who made him.

Coalton Reynolds writes about dating and relationships. If you are exploring the online dating adult scene, you may want to consider http://www.nsadatingsite.com/ due to its large membership base of people looking for relationships of all kinds.

You may find several articles in the internet telling you the do’s and don’ts on how to get a girlfriend. And being the guy who, let’s face it, desperately wants to have one, you have read through these self-help guides and you may have even bought an e-book about it.

These so-called “tips and tricks” are all well and good to read. But what most of these articles fail to realize is that talking about the solution is a whole lot different than doing the actual suggestion. Let us uncover how to actually use some of the known ways suggested by most how to get a girlfriend articles to lead to tangible fruition.

-Be yourself – This suggestion is not only used in such instances, it is also regurgitated in books that offer help from landing a job, to running in politics. However, in reality, you can never be your self immediately in front of a woman you are trying to attract. You do not hash out your crazy side of say, liking to turn cute little animals into cute little kitchen appliances immediately. You have to ease the crazy in little by little.

-Be confident – But how can you be confident if she makes your palms all sweaty and her beauty is so surreal, you get tongue tied? This is where a charming honest quip will come in handy. Say you are trying to be all manly confident and then you mess up by saying something incredibly dumb? Just laugh it out and say that she makes you so nervous because of her pretty eyes. It may be a dorky move but it is a pretty nice save on your part. It will also make her laugh which is another plus.

-Be funny – This maybe easy for guys like Chris Rock or Jim Carrey but for an average Joe, this suggestion may lead to an awkward “knock, knock” joke. At most, try to slip in some dry and witty observations that you think are interesting. Who knows, you might make her crack a smile or two.

-Be interesting – This is a very unhelpful suggestion, especially if it contradicts with the first one, “be yourself”. If you are as interesting as a piece of dry bread that even a bum on the street won’t dare nibble on, then try focusing the conversation more on her. This will give you the chance to cover up your oh-so-boring life and you will get to know a great deal about her in the end. Now if she ends up leading a life as interesting as yours, then throw in a comment like “well, aren’t we two peas in a pod?” or something like that.

In actuality, all self help books on how to get a girlfriend are right theoretically. But getting them from print to real life is where it gets really hard. A quick rule of thumb in order to make the most out of such “tips,” always think of how this will play on the field to let you know what you will actually do come game time.

Bobby Roberts has been giving tips to guys on how to get a girlfriend easily. This is to prevent painful rejection from any women they want. Readers can also read his review about the DoubleYourDating eBook.