About Relationships

People have sexual fantasies and desires. Many visualize experiencing intimacy with the perfect partner. Others may wish for the dream lover who arrives-then vanishes once they are both satiated. There are some who lust for the various pleasures of group sex and orgies.

One of the deepest needs of most is to experience the perfect love relationship. The poets and philosophers have waxed on about the sublimity and ecstasy of love for centuries. Songs such as “Venus”, “Johnny Angel”, “Venus in Blue Jeans” and “Angel Baby” suggest that perfect love is a gift from above. The multitude of songs expressing the heavenly delights of love are too numerous to mention.

Some happily discover fulfilling relationships. Value for value love relationships do exist on earth. Unfortunately many cry out “Oh love, sweet love, why do you forsake me.” At night, reeling from love’s forgetfulness, staring up at the ceiling with swollen eyes, their vision blurred by uncontrollable tears-they wonder in their suffering, how long Mr. Heartache will remain an unwelcome guest. Their highest value is gone forever. Their self esteem has suffered an almost fatal blow.

As difficult as this may seem, you have to maintain some control over your thoughts and emotions when you play with the fires of love-even though the resulting flames of passion can supply two people the most pleasurable feelings and experiences life has to offer.

On the other hand the flames of passion can run amuck burning everyone involved. Emotions such as jealousy combined with possessiveness can cause the fires of love to go nova. The relationship blows up.

Probably some of the most painful feelings you can suffer result from the fires of love diminishing and burning out. The flame of passion suddenly begins to flicker and is soon extinguished. Tears fall as the smoke from the dying flame rises up and inflicts its torture on the eyes of the lover spurned. It is heartbreaking when one partner is still deeply in love with someone whose love has vanished. Love has become a maker of despair.

What can an individual attempting to live happily do? Two important facts of reality have to be internalized.

Reality #1 You can not possess another person. They own their life.

All individuals have a right to self determination. If someone no longer desires a relationship with you-that is their perfect right. If you believe that they are making a mistake you can do everything possible to change their mind. Sometimes allowing them space is effective. Other times they need to be pursued with new vigor.

If nothing works you have to accept the end of the relationship-no matter how heartbreaking it is. The higher your self esteem and the more confident you are about your ability to attract another partner the sooner you make the adjustment.

Reality #2 Practicing the Art of Non-Attachment results in more success at living happily.

Since you cannot possess another it is wise to learn the Art of Non-Attachment. If you’re controlled by another’s actions and emotions you are not free. You are attached to them. Should they decide they no longer desire to continue the relationship the breaking of the attachment is traumatic.

When a relationship ends there is heartbreak and sadness. Later I will show you methods for mastering the Art of Non-Attachment to alleviate your pain and suffering. You will expedite your return to enjoying life’s many pleasures.

Embrace all the ecstasies of love and relationships. Experience the best they have to offer. Just avoid the traps-or at least learn to live with the disappointment that’s sometimes part of the package.

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Love truly heightens every emotion. From recognizing the love for another person, one can almost instantly feel the change in perspective in their lives and their aspirations for the future. However, much like any other foundation, love must be founded on solid grounds for a relationship to grow. Taking care of love and relationships will require work from both parties and a conscious effort on a daily basis.

But just as it is a mystery as to why the love bug hit you, falling out of love is also a mystery. Some people don’t even realize when they are falling out of love because it happens so gradually. For others, it is just too obvious to be ignored. Falling in love may be confused with infatuation or a strong first impression, but falling out of love will hit you head on.

- During the honeymoon stage, you spend a lot of time communicating whether it is just through the phone or email. However, when falling out of love this communication greatly decreases. Communication will decrease both in quality and quantity. The frequency greatly decreases and you can see that it may not be as thoughtful or special as it once was.

- Time spent together also decreases in quality and quantity. What used to be a regular weekend date schedule now turns into every other week or once a month. For couples living together, the time spent together or outside the home decreases as one may be unavailable for most time for one reason or another. There seems to be less quality time as well as time spent together may be bland or boring. Sometimes, each person is so engaged in their own activities and responsibilities that they don’t make time to do things together.

- Time is now spent with other people compared to the times spent together growing the relationship. The other partner may also be found talking about other things and other people and rarely mentions the other partner.

- The communication is different than it was before and no longer feels special anymore. Before, spending time together was filled with fun and laughter. When falling out of love, the communication no longer seems fun or happy anymore. Sometimes, communication can even be more negative, filled with arguments over little things.

- One may also feel that the partnership is falling away because they feel they don’t know the other person on a deeper level and that decisions are made individually instead of working it out together.

- The other person may also feel more moody as feelings are being gauged and monitored at this point. What is truly ecstatic in one moment can turn into a feeling of sadness or emptiness for no reason at all.

- A simple but very helpful sign is having that gut feel that the relationship isn’t the same as before. Knowing that this is a true gut feel and not just paranoia will help you see whether your love is now faltering or not.

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Given the undeniably high probably of a new marriage ending in divorce, it is hard today to engage in the marriage process without me thinking about divorce. First of all, I have already been affected by the social influence of divorce with it being all around me and because of this I could never embark in marriage process with out some reasonable plans of escaping the affects of divorce. Second, I feel the thought of orienteering family life without a compass to guide me through some sort of a marriage mental map absolutely alarming. Third, I have prepared myself for the looming possibility of divorce by significantly altering my perception of both marriage and my ideal mate. Knowing this world can be so uncertain and unstable, I have to find some certain emotional stability when planning for the future.

First of all, I have already been affected by the social influence of divorce with it being all around me and because of this I could never embark in marriage process without some reasonable plans of escaping the affects of divorce.

Some estimates say that over half of all children in the U.S. today live apart from one of their biological parents before they leave home. I have felt the effects of this very statistic as my mother and father divorced and remarried each other once.

The only reason they never divorced again is because when I was 17 my dad called me and told me he couldn’t go through another divorce and shot himself while I was on the phone with him. I was hospitalized for a few months with severe depression.

I can’t say this made me think about divorce until 5 years later when my girlfriend of three years left me and I botched an attempt at suicide. Since then there is not a single day I have not thought about how could I cope with divorce.

Second, I feel the thought of orienteering family life without a compass to guide me through some sort of a marriage mental map absolutely terrifying.

If a person does not have some sort of a vision of what they are trying to move toward, how does one go about achieving this goal? My own personal problem is the only family I have ever known, I have come to terms with as being dysfunctional, so how am I suppose to build a family based off my own perception?

I am a goal oriented person, so I must have some sort of a pattern to try to follow or attain. If I don’t have some direction how can I know when I’ve arrived at having a successful family? These questions and more are just demonstrating my fears orienteering marriage.

Third, I have prepared myself for the looming possibility of divorce by significantly altering my perception of both marriage and my ideal mate.

I did not date anyone for over 5 years because of my attempted suicide and spent much time rethinking what marriage should be. I decided I will no longer just follow my feelings when I get in involved with some girl because I want my life to amount to more than an emotional train wreck.

I’ve concluded I have to be able to be happy independently of anyone, because what if my wife did leave me or died? I’m also back to the drawing board about what marriage is for me and what type of person I should date.

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All too often, men all over the world deal with the “nice guy” problem. Treating women nicely seems to be the thing they should do but then they end up stuck in the friend zone with all the women they know. It doesn’t make sense, after all: why would women want to be in relationships with guys who treat them badly? It seems a contradictory idea and doesn’t make much sense at first glance, to anyone.

In reality, it isn’t the fact that these bad boys treat them badly that keeps women attracted to them. That is just unhealthy thinking and a women in a relationship like that clearly lacks respect for herself. It is actually the personalities of these men that women want: the confidence and aggression that proves these men will be good providers in their relationships.

Nice guys who feel stuck in relationships with women need to think less about the fact that they’re too nice, and more that they need to work on confidence and self esteem. Don’t be mean to women; that is not the way to get them to be attracted to you.

The thing nice guys should think about is the parts of themselves that women will find attractive. Confidence and self esteem may be lacking. Even a lot of guys who are smart and do have things to feel confident about simply feel lacking. Their high intellects may be what get them into problems in their relationships in the first place; they over think things and don’t act on their impulses enough.

Nice guys don’t have to finish last; they simply need to think about themselves more to succeed in relationships. Respecting oneself is the beginning of confidence. Nice guys must respect themselves, and then respect for women will follow. They must get rid of the nice guy idea all together and instead think of themselves as confidence and successful people who can attract women and be successful in relationships.

Focusing on the positive parts of oneself in this way is a big part of being successful in relationships, period. Women will be more at ease with guys who are confident and comfortable in their own skins and don’t fret about everything. Guys who respect and listen to them are a big plus. Many guys don’t succeed in relationships simply because they don’t know how to listen to women well. They are too focused on themselves or their deficiencies, when all women really want from them is for them to be better listeners.

Nice guys and relationships can be a successful pairing, provided that these guys don’t think “nice” is what is the problem. The real problem with their relationships so far is their lack of confidence or communication and listening skills. Don’t worry about yourself or the fact that you are somehow deficient. Instead, think about enjoying time with the women in your life. Better interactions will just naturally arise from doing this in ways you might not have thought possible as a “nice guy.”

Gerda R. Leon, relationship author, encourages couples to share a laugh while watching funny dance videos, gross videos or funny animal videos.

Unless you have a sufficient degree of self-esteem and confidence, you should not even try to jump into a commitment with other people. That is because if you don’t like yourself, you cannot truly and honestly say that you can like other people.

Relationships can’t give you self-esteem

Getting involved with people because you hope that they will give you the self-respect that you lack is not likely to produce good and lasting results for that involvement. People can do nothing about something that is inside you.

Starting out a relationship on the right foot is hard enough without your burdening it with your expectations of moral support. People don’t like making friends with those who are uncertain about themselves.

Liking yourself is a prerequisite to establishing relationships

You will need to devote a lot of time examining your deepest motivations if you expect to have some amount of success in dealing with people. Making a list of the shortcomings you can observe in yourself might help. Once aware of your faults, it becomes a matter of research and determination to overcome them.

Speak to someone who knows about character formation and about how awkward and defensive you are in a crowd. Take the time to locate the most respected professionals about your problems.

If you feel that you are overly gratified by praise and crushed by criticism, you should be aware that those are two symptoms of being an immature individual. And that is the very reason why immature people can never involve themselves with others for a long time. So try to feel positive about yourself whether people praise of criticize you.

Go into the crowd to experience Relationships

The only way to learn how to like your self is to socialize. If you are a loner because you cannot react effectively to people, you have to spend time to learn to be spontaneous in a large crowd. It may be difficult at first, but after you have gotten used to being heard in a crowd, you are ready for more serious associations.

Refrain from aggressive speech in Relationships

Keep your conversation topics on yourself and on other things. Never address people directly as this can make many feel paranoid about themselves. If you need to observe something about them, go about it in a roundabout way. If they perceive you as a critical person, they will one by one start avoiding you.

You should also avoid the second person in your speech. Addressing people directly in the second person will not only make them uncomfortable but make them suspicious of your motives.

Persistence spells success

When you begin you relationships with people, you shouldn’t be discouraged by difficult emotional situations. Never stop trying. Character traits need time to be learned. Besides, what do you get by stopping?

Summon the courage to last through the many difficult situations we may find ourselves in. Neither success nor failure should distract you from your real purpose which is to develop and nurture that maturity of mind that is needed for social interaction.

Gerda Leon, counselor and relationship author recommends sharing a good laugh with your significant other. Check out these dancing videos or funny animal videos or possibly disgusting videos

This is a very difficult question to answer because it depends on the perspective of the parties involved. In other words, moms may feel a certain way about certain laws, whereas dads may feel differently about same.

Let’s take a look at Alimony for instance. Most likely, women, in general, feel that this is fair based on the fact that maybe their salary is lower than that of their ex husbands, etc…whereas men, in general, would feel that it is unfair, as the Law privileges women for no reason, and it takes the money that the men earn by working hard to give it to their ex wives.

Further, if we take a look at Child Custody, we’ll see how complicated and complex this is. Every state has a list of factors according to which Child Custody is awarded. This list is technically called “Determining Factors”. Please, consult the Determining Factors in your state for the compete list of factors. Some of the factors may vary from state to state, however, the majority of these factors will be endemic to most states.

Let’s examine some of the Child Custody factors. One of the factors is “the love and affection” that a parent has for the children. While this is nice factor to use, it is very difficult to measure such emotions, as people display their emotions and/or love differently.

Moreover, there is the biggest Flaw in the Law: whoever spent more time with the kids prior to divorce becomes the “primary care giver” of the children, and, therefore, has a greater chance of being awarded sole custody of the minor children. While this may seem fair at first glance, a more profound look divulges the fact that this is not fair to the party who worked so hard to earn money for the household. This is true irrespective of whether the parent staying home is the dad or the mom. In other words, this is unfair irrespective of the gender of the parent.

In my case, personally, I did not wish to work full time while my ex stayed home with the children. In fact, I asked my ex spouse so many times to work at least part time so that I could spend more time with our kids. I also expressed the possibility that we could alternate working. Effectively, I could work for a year while she took care of the kids, and then, I could have stayed home with the kids, while she worked.

She just refused, and the result was that she took advantage of the situation. So, here we see that the Law has a Flaw! What are your choices as a parent/husband in this case? Do you acquiesce in order to avoid a divorce, or do you try to push your wife to work so that both of you would: (A) spend an equitable amount of time with your kids, and (B) be viewed as an equal “care giver” by the court, should there be a divorce.

The sad reality is that one of the parents, whether it is the mom or the dad, may try to use the Law to his or her advantage. If the Law were more equitable, such issues would not occur as often.

During my divorce, I went to the library and read up on Family Law. I encountered a site that published statistics regarding divorce in all 50 States! it was very interesting to see that the State of Minnesota, I believe, had the highest ratio of Shared or Joint Custody, and at the same time, it had one of the lowest divorce rates in the country. The explanation is very simple: when a parent sees that there is no advantage that she or he may get from the divorce, then she or he may try to make the marriage work instead of rushing into a divorce.

In other words, if a parent realizes that she or he is going to get Sole Custody of the Minor Children, Spousal Support or Alimony, and Child Support, then that parent takes the enticing deal and divorces easily without necessarily contemplating the impact of the divorce on the children or the family as a unit. However, if none of these incentives is offered, then that parent will cogitate over a major decision such as a divorce.

The lesson here is that the Law should not give all to one parent, and virtually nothing to the other parent!

Here is how Family Law operates, which, you will see, defies any logical thinking. It really makes you wonder who wrote these Family Laws?

In essence, here is what happens when there is a divorce that involves minor children. The Law gives the Children and Child Support to one parent, and leaves the other parent with nothing!

Family Law has its preference, as to which parent should get custody of the minor children. This may not necessarily be, and in fact isn’t most of the time, the wish of the parent who does not get custody of the children. Then, to add insult to injury, the law dictates that the parent who does not get custody of the children pay the other parent child support. Here is the fallacy in the reasoning: first, the law forces that parent not to have custody of his or her children, and second, it forces her or him to pay child support to the other parent for a decision with which she or he is not agreeing.

I would, however, concur with the Law if one of the parents willingly conceded custody to the other parent. However, most of the time, this is not the case. Some of the Laws ought to be revisited, and rewritten.

When the Law metes out justice, and hence, Child Support, it does not check how the money is spent and on whom! In other words, the parent, who is awarded Child Support, may use or misuse the money in any way that she or he pleases. Now, how fair is that?

The idea behind Child Support is to ensure that the children are well taken care of, and that there is a financial balance for the kids between Dad’s house and Mom’s house. However, the Law does not make the effort to look into how the money is spent. This is deplorable, for any party might just misuse the money and spend a big part of it on him or herself!

Again, these Laws ought to be revisited. It is very sad to think that some people take advantage of the system to get as much money as they can without having to work! How fair is it to the other party who has to work, pay Child Support, and yet pay for his or her kids’ needs while under their own care?

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The divorce rate in the United States is over 50%. This is largely due to people not noticing the warnings or the “Red Flags” in their significant other before and during the marriage. This article will depict many “Red Flags” that many people overlook or ignore. The purpose of this article is to make you aware of many warnings so that you can adjust and hopefully prevent your relationship from going bad.

Some of the marriage warnings are there from start, yet we either do not see them, or prefer not to see them. You really should be paying attention to these warnings! You think that you are going to make him/her change over time and that things are going to be perfect! The truth is that, most of the time, it is very difficult to change somebody, unless he/she is willing to change.

The truth is that most factors/defects get multiplied over time, over the course of a marriage. What might seem like a small thing to you in the beginning of your marriage might appear horrendous a few years later. So bear that in mind, and look for those flags from the beginning to make sure that you do not embark on the marriage journey, which is of the most challenging journeys in our lives, without having examined the warnings.

One of the flags is, for instance, if you see that your spouse behaves somewhat selfishly. In the beginning, when you are in love, you may not be paying so much attention to that thinking that this is a “small thing” and that it is not that important!

One example of selfishness is that if he or she finishes some of your favorite food before you come home from work or school! Your spouse should be thinking of you, and of the fact that you will come back home possibly tired and hungry. If she or he went ahead and finished the food, that is a sign of selfishness. This is the type of behavior that gets much worse over the years, and then you realize that the flags were there, but you just did not see them!

Another example of selfishness is if your spouse has a different schedule from yours, and does not pay attention to your schedule. What I mean by that is if your spouse does not have to get up early in the morning, whereas you do, but he or she does not care about the fact that you have to go to bed relatively early in order to wake up early, and she or he decides to go to bed late and turns up the TV while you are trying to get some sleep!

This is total lack of empathy, and shows serious signs of selfishness. Your spouse and you should be coordinating your schedules so that they fit both of your needs. Now, this does not mean that your spouse cannot watch TV while you are in bed. He or she may watch as long as the TV is not too loud. In fact, this shows that your spouse cares about you and about your health/schedule!

The gist of selfishness is when you feel that your wife/husband is taking a lot and not giving much in return. For example, if he or she is not helping as much as you do around the house, or in driving, etc…

Keep an eye on all those things that might seem trivial now. These are the warnings, or the flags, that you should be paying attention to from the beginning. If you see any of these, make sure to be very careful as this is a “red flag”.

The most important lesson here is to try to find out whether your husband/wife is as devoted as you are. This is really critical to know before making the decision of having kids. Once you have kids, your life will change forever, so make sure that you are starting on the right foot.

Another “red flag” is if you see or sense, from the start, that your boyfriend/girlfriend is interested in the money you are making, or potentially the money you are going to make. This indicates that your mate is greedy. This will eventually lead to serious problems later on in a relationship.

One of the most important warnings ever, when you are in a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend, is your partner’s immediate family!

Well, you might think at first:” what’s this got to do with my girlfriend/boyfriend?”

It has a LOT to do with it! In fact, this is one of the most important factors in determining whether your relationship, whether as boyfriend/girlfriend, or as a married couple, will last. The reason is, again, in the beginning of a relationship, both of you will stand up to your respective families because you are in love. However, as years go by, love will not be as strong as it once was, most of the time, and as a result, if there are enough incompatibilities between you and your in-laws, problems will arise. This does not mean that you have to agree with your potential in-laws about everything, but generally, you have to make sure that there are some common grounds in thinking.

These problems get multiplied over the years, and interestingly enough, yet sadly, each one of you will eventually agree more with his/her family than with his/her partner. So make sure, from the beginning that you see eye to eye with you future in-laws about important matters, especially raising children. Remember that the minute you have a child, your whole perspective about life changes, and your child will become the most important thing in your life!

Differences, as to how to raise the children, could cause enough dissension so as to bring about a divorce.

If you do not pay attention to these “red flags”, you will regret it, as these incompatibilities may very well ruin your marriage.

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Planning a wedding? Panicking yet? If you are a bride or are closely involved in the planning process you probably know the stomach-twisting apprehension that comes from trying to decide how to dress your wedding. There are a million decisions to make, and a million options to consider at each turn. It can be confusing and down-right terrifying the moment you begin to wade into the sea of ideas, colors, venues, and themes that will establish the perfect feel for your special day. You want to give your guests something creative and captivating, something that will always remind them of the joy you and your honey celebrated on your wedding day. With that in mind, have you considered bamboo?

Bamboo favors have experienced a recent increase in popularity. They come in a wide variety of forms and can complement a range of different themes and color schemes. Whether you want to incorporate the symbolism of this plant into your day, or just want to give an enjoyable, eco-friendly favor to all your guests, bamboo is the choice for you.

Bamboo plants grow in many parts of the world and have diverse uses in different cultures. Bamboo is a perennial plant and technically a grass, although many of us think of it as a tree. It can grow at exceptional speeds and to great heights, while some house varieties, such as dwarf bamboo, remain relatively small.

The symbolism attributed to the bamboo plant can add an extra layer to your wedding theme. The meanings attached to this plant, particularly longevity, strength, resilience, and grace, could symbolize the hopes you have for your marriage. By giving your guest a favor made of bamboo, you will be welcoming them into you and your spouse’s desire for a long lasting, strong marriage.

Once you decide on bamboo, you have to pick what kind of favor you would like to give. There are several popular options you might want to consider. You can choose to give your guests something made out of bamboo, such as coasters, candleholders, bookmarks, or miniature trinket boxes. Items of this type can be fun, memorable gifts your guests can continue to use long after the wedding. Bamboo favors are tasteful and add a sense of vitality and grace to any occasion.

Another popular option is to give small bamboo plants to each guest. These gifts are lovely, eco-friendly and easily personalized. You can make your gifts unique by picking out the pots and decorating them with names or the date of your wedding. If you possess some artistic flair you want to show off, you could create a personalized design on each pot. Bamboo plants are low-maintenance and fairly easy to grow, making them an ideal, long-lasting gift. They will symbolize the good wishes you have for your marriage and those who have come to celebrate it with you.

Bamboo favors are versatile enough to work into practically any theme. They will add meaning and life to your wedding experience.

Katie Washington is a writer for My Wedding Favors where you can buy bamboo wedding favors and favors in other themes and styles.

When you are planning a wedding and you have a jungle theme, then there are several different jungle wedding favors that you will be able to buy. In order to find the best ones to pick from, you will want to do a search online. Because the online stores have a lot of variety, you will be able to pick from a wide range of favors to give your guests.

One of the cutest types of jungle wedding favors is getting the different types of animals that live there. You can get several different kinds of animal statutes and give each guest at each table a different one. You should make sure that you tie a pretty ribbon around it and that you also have a matchbook with your name and wedding date on it for each guest. This will be an awesome wedding favor for them to take home with them. They will always remember your wedding when they look at their jungle wedding favors. If they put them in their living room or somewhere else in their home, they will always be reminded of the fun time that they had at your special event.

Jungle wedding favors can also be candles, vases with flowers in them or other items. You should make sure that you use the colors in the jungle for the wedding favors and the decorations. There should be lots of greens, browns and rustic colors. Use ribbons, artificial flowers and other such items to really spruce up your event.

Wedding favors are very important. They show your guests just how much you appreciate that they came to see you and your spouse begin the rest of your lives together. Make sure that you make your guests feel welcome and with the wedding favors you will be able to show them how much you care.

Anyone that is planning a wedding should make sure that their wedding favors are tasteful. This is important for everyone. Always make sure that they are of high quality and that you have enough of them to give to each and every person that attends your special day. Also make sure that you have two left, one for you and your spouse to remember the beginning of your lives together.

If you need help when you are trying to choose your jungle wedding favors, you can hire a wedding planner who will handle all the details for you. This is especially beneficial if you are very busy and do not have time to do the necessary legwork in planning the big day. The investment in a wedding planner will be worth it if you need to get one.

Make sure that your wedding is wonderful. Plan well and then have the time of your life. It is a day that you will never forget, so try and make it as nice as you possibly can with the things that you want. Stick to a budget, but make it the very best that you can.

Katie Washington writes for My Wedding Favors, a seller of jungle and safari wedding favors and other wedding day accessories and favors.

Colors, themes and styles can change year to year in weddings. It used to be that wedding styles didn’t change much from year to year. It was normal for all of the bridesmaids to have matching dresses and the groomsmen all wore tuxedos. The wedding industry has changes drastically over the past couple of decades. If you are planning on getting married in 2010, I’m sure thoughts will be turning on what to wear, where to get married and many more details that will follow to make your day perfect. Here is a quick look at fashion trends that are emerging this year.

Wedding Dress- Long flowing romantic style dresses are really starting to emerge. Soft fabrics, even with a floral design are very popular. You can even compliment the dress with a sash. Lace is also becoming more and more common among brides. Strapless wedding dress continues to be the most popular. Long trains are out, but long veils are back in this season.

Colors- Purple is the new blue. Deep plum seems to be the new seasonal favorite for fall of 2010. Brides are starting to purchase lavender accents for their upcoming spring and summer collection and are expected to remain the same thought 2011. There has also been an increase of black and white weddings on the rise. Black is very formal and elegant. If you choose to go with black and white, think about accenting another color such as tiffany blue or fuchsia. This will really make your colors pop!

Reception- A more casual feel to your wedding is becoming more popular. Use centerpieces of matching colors, and then have different heights of arrangements (ex: vases). More and more brides are using natural materials such as lemons, apples, leaves, etc. Lanterns and flowering veins are as popular as ever. Also, arrangements of ostrich feather centerpieces are becoming more popular.

Wedding Cakes- The past couple of years, elaborate dessert tables and candy bars have been very popular. The more traditional wedding cake is making a comeback. White classic wedding cakes seem to be what is becoming more and more popular. A good suggestion is to order a single round, three tier cake with buttercream icing and white fondant. Really make it stand out by adding bold flowers to decorate the cake with, with something decorative (antique look) to add to the top of the cake. You can also go with a simple look and have it clear at the top of the cake.

Photo Booths- This has been very popular over the past couple of years. I don’t see this trend going away anytime soon. You can add a little more “spice” to your photo booth by personalizing it more. Add props such as an old rustic couch. This makes guest feel more comfortable and makes for great pictures. Also, have an assortment of dress up items such as goofy glasses, mustaches, hats, and feather boas.

Remember, this is a once in a lifetime event. So no matter what is “in style” just follow your heart and stay true to who you are. Have a blast planning your special day!

Lindsay Crawford is a writer for Wholesale Event Solutions, a company offering discount wedding and event planning supplies including ostrich plumes, wedding colonnade, wedding centerpieces, and much more!