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What you create in your home you create in your life. You can begin to take control of your life’s outcome by taking control of your environment. Since you end up spending over half of your life in bed, it should come as no surprise how important this room is to your life’s happiness and the practice of Feng Shui. The goal is to create the optimum environment in your bedroom for prosperity, abundance, relationships and health. The bedroom is the place where you restore and rejuvenate your spirit and energy so that you can have all that you desire in your life. In order to make sure your bedroom is a soothing and a relaxing place, you need to create an energy that is restorative, simple, and calm. Here are just a few Feng Shui tips to help make sure your bedroom gives you what you need.

Get Rid of the Clutter

One of the easiest ways to make sure the Feng Shui of your bedroom is more positive and flowing is to get rid of the excessive clutter. While you might need a few things sitting out at any time, you do not need to have clothes on the floor or knick knacks on every shelf. The knick knacks are symbols of energy so you must look at the energy of what you are keeping in your bedroom. Pictures of your children are not appropriate for the bedroom. The pictures you keep are the people that you are inviting into your bedroom. Your in-laws pictures are better places in the living room. Take some time to really look at the energy of the things you keep and pare things down so that here is as little in your room as possible. This includes removing excessive items from your drawers and closets as well since you want to make sure the energy is ‘clean’ in every nook and cranny of your home.

Close the Door

Since energy can easily move in as well as out of your bedroom, make sure you keep your master bedroom door closed whenever possible. In the practice of Feng Shui, this will allow the energy that you’ve built up in the room to stay there and to stay strong. While you might need to open the door at night for a pesky cat or dog, it’s always best to try to keep the door closed as often as possible.

Remove What Doesn’t Belong

While it might be more comfortable to play on your computer in bed or to watch movies from under the covers, these two electronic devices will actually scatter the energy of your room, according to Feng Shui. This can lead to troubles with sleeping as well as with troubles feeling rested when you wake up. Make sure to remove everything you can from your bedroom that isn’t associated with sleep or with sex. Stick with books if you need to be entertained before you go to sleep.

Your bedroom is one of the most important rooms in your home. And with these Feng Shui practices, you can begin to enjoy being in there even more than you do now.

Candace Czarny, ASID, CFM, LEED AP, “Award Winning” Interior Designer, Feng Shui Expert & Author of 20 Minute Feng Shui is continually ranked “Top 10″ in Google and Yahoo. Clients testify of dramatic results!

You think she is the girl of your dreams and at first she looks at you like you are her prince, but by the end of the date, she never wants to see you again.

Was it something you did/said/wore? Yes, yes, yes, say the authors of a new book: “Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do That Guarantee They Won’t Be Dating or Having Sex.”

According to authors Anne Coyle and Ellen Rakieten, there are hundreds of turn offs that guys probably don’t even realize they are doing.

One example the authors give is a man walking in and his date sees that he sports hair plugs. The woman tells herself she can move past that.

But then, the man opens his mouth and uses endless sports metaphors. He also wears (horror) pleated front pants, has a cell phone clipped to his belt and drinks Long Island Iced Teas. But then comes the coup de grace — he gets up and tells the woman that he has to go take a “dump.”

This is the perfect example of an undateable guy, say Coyle and Rakieten.

“We interviewed hundreds of smart, funny, normal women from all walks of life and asked them for their lists of Undateables, the things that turned a guy from a MAYBE into a NO WAY,” wrote Coyle and Rakieten. “Some answers were more obvious (readjusting the “family jewels” over drinks), while others were randomly brilliant (owning a cat), and some we never saw coming (using the phrase “my lover”).

“This is stuff that guys don’t know because nobody tells them,” Rakieten said on Good Morning America in March.

On Good Morning America, the authors went looking for offenders at the ESPN Zone in Times Square.

They found a guy wearing a baseball cap backward – big no-no. Is having messy hair better? He asked the authors and they both replied, “YES!”

The second guy took off his Nike sweatshirt and the women groaned. He had on a bright red tee shirt with a giant MnM character face on it.

“You’re adorable, and really, truly is this what you want to say to the world?” they said. “I’m an MnM?”

The women asked the third guy if he wore a blue tooth on his ear like that all the time.

“Every day,” he answered and got a big thumb down.

Then the women found two guys they said knew how to do it right: they had FLAT FRONT pants on and nice shoes.

“So what’s the lesson learned?” asked the Good Morning America host. “Every frog can become a prince if they just have a little help.”

So what are some other Undateable things to avoid?

 A man should never go shirtless unless he’s at the beach, in the shower or in bed.

 A man’s underwear or boxers should never hang out of his pants

 DO NOT, under any circumstances, wear that combination of too short jeans and too long shorts called Jorts.

 NEVER wear white socks without athletic sneakers and NEVER wear socks with sandals.

Bill has been studying How to Pick Up Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Don’t Be Undateable.

Have you though about what is stopping you from approaching women?

I would hazard a guess that one reason men hesitate in approaching women is that they have a deep down fear of rejection.

We all want to be accepted and liked and popular, but the world doesn’t work that way.

If the one thing that is stopping you from going up to that gorgeous woman and talking to her is your fear that she will reject you, then there is only one thing to do:

Expect rejection.

I want you to expect that when you go up to that woman she probably is not going to give you her phone number. And that is OK.

What you need to do is change your goal. If you change the game plan so that the goal is not to get a woman’s phone number, you area already ahead of the game.

Here is what your new goal will be: Your new goal is to successfully go up and have a conversation with a woman. Period. Nothing else. It can only be for five minutes. It can last for 2 hours. The goal is to go talk to a woman and that is it.

You can succeed at this goal. I know you can. It is not about getting a phone number. It is about having a conversation.

The main point I am trying to make is one that all of us need to learn at some point or other in our lives – we have no control over other people or how they react to what we say or do. The only control we have is over ourselves. We can only control what we say and do. If someone, say a woman, chooses to respond to us in a way we like, then that is great. But if a woman chooses to respond in a way we don’t like, well, guess what? That is fine, as well.

The key to successfully approaching a woman is to not make a big deal about it. After all, your goal is to talk to a woman for a few minutes or however long. It is not about meeting you future wife (though that may be a result) or about getting a date for Saturday night (again, that may happen), but the goal is to simply talk to a woman for a few minutes.

If you truly believe this and make this your goal, you will automatically give off an attitude of confidence and nonchalance. You will seem like the kind of guy who goes up and talks to women just for the heck of it, because guess what? You do.

This will actually be more appealing than you can imagine to a woman. Women are used to men approaching them wanting something 100 percent of the time. If you just approach her, have a conversation and leave, she will be intrigued.

I’m not saying that if you see her continue looking at you that you shouldn’t go back and get her number of maybe you’ll see her again at another time. The point is you have accomplished your goal and became a man of intrigue at the same time.

Bill has been studying How to Approach Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: What Stops You From Approaching Women?.

When I was fourteen, my family was new in town and I started attending a church youth group absolutely stocked with beautiful, beautiful girls to my fourteen year old eyes. When interacting with them, the one constant theme was, “I don’t know what to do.” So I either did nothing or did something reasonably stupid. This pattern continued with little development well into my college years. That’s it. I just didn’t know what to do. I was afraid, but I was afraid primarily because I didn’t know what to do. I desperately wanted many girls over the years to be interested in me. I was a “serial crusher”, one girl or another would grab my interest, and I usually knew her socially, but I just didn’t know what to do. I was eighteen before it really even occurred to me that I could just ask a girl out.

It’s a painful feeling, not knowing what to do. You want something, and you know you want it but see absolutely no way of getting it. Of course, it was more complex, many factors associated with just general awkwardness and maturity were there, but I didn’t seem to be “growing out of it”. A “phase” doesn’t last for years. When I discovered my first “How to Talk to Women” book, it was amazing. Now I did know what to do. A funny thing happened, it worked. At least for a while, and then the next book worked for a while, and the next. Now at this point I could give some trite line like, “I learned to just be myself, and they worked because I believed in myself,” or some other useless drivel, but I won’t. What all of these books gave me was something that was true, even if not completely true, because it did work. They did help me because “I believed in myself,” but more importantly they helped me see a self I could believe in. They all helped me know what to do.

What to do is this. ACTE: Assess the Situation, Create a Simple Plan, Take Action, and Evaluate. I didn’t invent this and have to give credit to an ex-Navy SEAL author named Richard Machowicz, although he didn’t invent this either, but I heard it first from him. I think its powerful because, whether I called it this at the time or not, it was the process I was following. What the books and experience of others helped give me was an understanding of their ACTE processes and what worked and what didn’t. What the Christian authors I was also reading helped give me was a greater understanding about the nature of men and women in general in a way that provided real standards to shoot for and why. If you follow this plan, it will get you closer to your goal. It will require some discipline to stick to it, but as long as you’re not always willfully weak ignorant or malicious, you will not only get closer to some far off hazy goal, but actually feel better before, during, and after your contacts with women.

Assessing the Situation is basically opening your eyes up to what’s going on, noticing your surroundings, your current mood, and the mood of the girl you have in mind, indicated by her body language and a kind of animal sense we all possess in noticing how others around us are feeling. You also have a clear goal in your mind, ultimately its marriage, but you have to meet her and date her first (or court if you prefer the term). Creating a simple plan and taking action means do the best you know at the time. You know doing nothing won’t work, so just take a second to think and then do what seems best. As long as its not overtly immoral, just do it.

Evaluate is a little more tricky and is the absolute crux, its where most people fall short and wind up failing. It means taking an honest look at what happened afterwards whether it went successfully or not. For example, there was a time when I thought I was being successful because I got a ton of numbers, but since these numbers ended up not panning out, I was missing the fact that, even though she gave me her number, she didn’t seem that excited about the prospect at the time. Also, even if you did everything right based on your experience and the experiences of others but it didn’t work with a particular girl, you know that what you had was not necessarily a bad plan. Evaluate. See the good and bad and make a note. So the next time you Create a Simple Plan, it will be based on a clearer view of Assessing the Situation and figuring out your options.

Over time, your knowledge of what works and what doesn’t will get clearer and more readily accessible. Just exercising your faculties of judgement and courage will have a great masculinizing effect and make you feel better about the whole process. If you ACTE, you will always know what to do.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

Since the beginning of time, in nearly every romance story, the hero gets the girl. The only problem is, I haven’t seen many dragons lately, unless you count the alligators in the bayou near my house, and honestly they’re not bothering anyone as a general rule. We all know courage is intimately bound up with winning a woman’s heart, but the problem is either we don’t know exactly how to be courageous, or the idea we have of courage is something that can’t be practically demonstrated in front of a girl unless you’re someone like a firefighter. And even in that case, there has to be a fire going on right then.

The truth is, courage is simpler than you think. Once you grasp its true nature, you will see that not only do opportunities for courage abound, but that it has been an intimate part of your life for a long time. Courage has the word couer as its root, the French word for heart. We all have times where we do something “heartily”, where you really throw yourself into something. Whether its playing sports or playing video games, we have all habitually done some things heartily.

If you call to mind what it’s like and observe it; it’s a time where the transition between noticing something (the placement of the ball or hearing approaching zombies) and acting on it is smooth and fast. Your actions may not always pay off, but as long as you’re really into what you’re doing they pay off more often than not. And when you’re playing really well, you know intuitively when to think and when to act so that you don’t just rush around to no benefit, and you don’t miss opportunities while you’re standing and thinking. The exact same thing happens when dealing with women. When you hold back, when you don’t let your spirit rise up and forward, she senses this, if even only on an animal level. But when you are not holding back, she notices this too. And if you’re not even afraid where most other guys are, she notices that too.

The process is this: knowledge always comes first, then judgement, and then action. Knowledge, in some ways can’t really be stopped. Your mind is powerful and is sensing gigantic amounts of information even when you’re not consciously choosing to think about it. Judgement is when you decide what to focus on. Good judgement means respecting knowledge, and where you go wrong is bad judgement, when you ignore what you know. Action is the follow up.

Here is how bad judgement usually happens: You know you want to get married eventually. You know a certain girl interests you. And you know that being passive doesn’t work. Bad judgement usually happens when you start ignoring these things. Good judgement dictates that you take action because nothing will ever really happen with a woman unless you take action. Then, you observe the result of your action. Either the girl wasn’t interested, in which case you should probably stop doing that and try something else. Or she was interested, in which case you can file that away as a nugget that will probably work again in the future.

But typically, we don’t follow our judgement and get solid real-world experience. We want to wait until we have a real feeling of certainty that she is interested. From my own experience, if that feeling ever arrives, it turns out to be false. Instead of simply acting and seeing the result, we wait and wait, anticipating that a positive result will come on its own without having to put ourselves on the line at all. This is the very opposite of courage.

This is why courage is a virtue. It is a muscle and exercising it becomes easier, but it always takes a little push at the start before your feelings line up with taking action. Just like on a rollercoaster, you never really feel like starting out until you have already gone over the first hill. Courage not only moves you toward your goal, but it also provides the benefit of making you feel stronger and better whenever you exercise it; however, all the benefits only come after you do it.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

Yeah I understand it pricks when you don’t find your husband beside you! But why did your husband depart? Have you ever asked yourself? Once you are able to answer this question you wont find any hassle in finding a pertinent solution to claim your ex back!

Usually men are poor at giving reasons when they are questioned about their disinterest towards marriage life. It is not that they don’t have proper reasons to put across but still they seem to act bizarre in coming up with a convincing reason! However, no reason that they state can convince you since you wouldn’t have seen that reason to be the root cause of a problem that has made you stand here reading this article all alone! This is what I refer to as a gap that you allowed to widen unconsciously.

However, looking at the picture in a broader perspective I can easily make out why husbands leave their wives for another woman? You may argue that the 6- lettered BEAUTY is the apposite answer to this question! I would like to cite several instances I have seen personally in which husbands have ditched their gorgeous and voluptuous wives for women who were inferior to their wives in beauty! So beauty is not the ultimate thing!

But the polls and stats give a different picture! These polls suggest that lack of admiration for husband is the main culprit working behind the scenes to stage a play of departure between the couples! Have you ever wondered this to be the top reason for which husbands go away from their beloved wives? No, right! Men yearn for admiration in general however when it comes from the wife’s end they fly above the moon!

Now you might ponder like ” No way! My husband had never said that to me! He never wanted me to admire him and if he had actually then he would have told me straight-out”! Women go wrong there! Men are poor express-ors of feelings especially when it involves some aspects of their pride! Only some men are unique to put across this sort of emotions! The ones, who can’t, simply look for other women who can actually have them soothed, solaced and most significantly admired! I presume you have recognized what you lacked. So shall we get down to this and start pondering on the options you have got to win your husband back!

* First up, you should make yourselves prepared to walk on your road to recovery! You should understand what does admiration mean to your husband. Put differently, you should try to make out what you lacked, so what you should infuse into your marriage life so as to win your husband back!

* Secondly, you must not grow haughty and grumpy over you husband for he having gone to another woman! You have to clearly understand that he is not after blonde hair or succulent skin but worthy admiration!

* Resurrect the feeling of intimacy your husband misjudged, as you never showed! Put a strong and unshakeable foundation of emotional bondage in your husband so that he never puts another woman in your place.

* Ultimately, you should make your husband sense that you are the only thing in his life that doesn’t deserve replacement whatsoever. You can instill this sort of emotion only if you get bound to him by pure love, which starts to ooze when you both exchange mutual admiration for one another!

I am definite that once you cognize the worth of admiration you would stop complaining your husband’s act and start advancing towards the road to exotic romance!

Daniel is a recongised guru on relationships after being through his own martial issues. For more advice and information on how to get your husband back check out this site for more information about getting your husband back

“Admiration” might seem as an inconsequential word to you but your husband might behold it with his eyeball dilated! After all, the thing, which many couples complain as to taking them to a sore married life, is the approach they have towards quite a lot of aspects of marriage life! Who knows? The exact reason why your husband ditched you might be due to the attitude you showed by underrating the word “admiration” from the instant you got married up till now—when you find yourselves deserted! I think I have been on the surface till now and hence I would get deeper into it by delving into the crux of the word “admiration”!

I understand how you would feel after knowing your husband is not the same person he used to be, anymore. But did you, at any point of time, give it a thought pondering on what made him alter his outlook to this marriage life and why has he changed? Well, I would say your attitude to take things for granted in certain trivial cases might have been a root cause for this issue! Admiration is a term every human in this world loves experiencing and husbands don’t act indifferent to this, I must acknowledge!

Generally speaking, husbands have a propensity to expect their wives to show more admiration for them however when their wives fail to do so, they give room for a thin layer of crack to crop up! It would have been awesome had you attended to that issue when the crack started to widen but now that you have understood where your problem is, I am quite sure that you would get to terms with your disinterested husband at the soonest!

Say your husband loves to be admired and he keeps doing favorable things to those who never fuss over admiring him. What if he, to his dismay, sees you not admiring him? Won’t he begin to think about why you are distinct in not admiring him, as you are the person who is supposed to admire him to the core! By admiration, I don’t refer to praising him artificially! The respect a husband deserves is something important for keeping a marriage up and running! I reckon you should know this being a wife!

I have seen several successful couples over the years since I got to know more people! The love they share for each other is on par with the admiration they exchange! Mutual exchange of admirable feelings is indeed divine! Had you loved your husband really? By this time you would shed a droplet of tear at least asking yourselves “why the heck you failed to admire him?” I appreciate this since you have come to the course that would lead you on your mission to get your husband back! There might have been certain reasons on which you literally downplayed the degree of worth, admiration deserves in your case as far as your marriage life is concerned.

So as a means to get your ex back in your life, I suggest that you inculcate a habit to admire him. You would do so if you really have the urge in you to win your husband back. It is not going to be difficult to you since you are now determined and much more meticulous than you were before.

* Never fail to make use of an instant that you perhaps may use to convey your admiration for your husband.

* Start liking whatever he does even if he annoys you! I know it is difficult but still look at his measures to annoy you as a romantic torture!

* Let him know that you are the only woman who can love him to the utmost! Do whatever you can to hint this to your husband! In simple words show him what is LOVE to him! I am quite sure that no other woman can run on his admiration-craving mind once you do this successfully!

I am sure your husband would reciprocate what you give him and now that you demonstrate love be ready to be loved by your husband!

Daniel is a recongised guru on relationships after being through his own martial issues. For more advice and information on how to get your husband back check out this site for more information about getting your husband back

Beauty is the most misjudged reason that takes responsibility for being the culprit behind several affairs that exist in this world right now! A Woman in general has a misconception that only beauty is the crucial cause for her husband to run behind an anonymous woman. Partially true, I would say! But what makes this partially right? Men crave for admiration and when it is showcased at the highest degree they go after it blindfolded.

Can you guess what would be the crucial reality, which has made beauty a partially true option behind men involving in affairs? For those who guessed here comes applause! For those who failed I pity your ignorance of certain subtleties pertinent to your marriage life. Yes ADMIRATION is the buzzword! Now you realize that this is the word you heard people talk about and you have only heard them talk! That’s it! Think whether have you admired your husband for several trivial things that he did?

It might seem trivial from your standpoint but what did your husband find that thing as? Did he value it so much? Then he should have got disappointed when you didn’t really admire him for that thing, right? Several questions like this may encircle your mind now! Don’t panic! We can find answers to all these questions soon! After all, you should try your level best to find answers for these questions if you have a real intention to get your ex back!

I have clearly emphasized the value husbands dedicate to admiration over beauty since they want to taste what their marriage life doesn’t bring to them. They are clear in identifying what their marriage life is devoid of and where to search for it! You as a counter argument may say that the ones involved in affairs are behind lust, sexual craving and physical orientation!

I wouldn’t negate your vindication as it has got substance. But where does the intention to develop lust for another woman begin? I admit certain husbands are behind sex but only a few of the population who have affairs! So where do the remaining count fall under? They come under the category of people who have developed more interest in other woman due to the fact that they get admired and esteemed much more than what they experience at home!

Therefore, having understood that admiration is the ultimate reason behind husbands deserting the wives, you must find a way out of the current distress you are in should you need your husband back! I suggest that you follow the pointers I have provided you in the paragraph given below if you need to regain your ex!

* Admire your husband more than ever! Make him understand that he deserves admiration and it was you who had erred by not respecting him at situations he needed to be awed. By admitting you were careless in admiring him you might get a twofold benefit.

** He would start admiring you for your candidness!

** In turn the love he has for you gets doubled! As in my book of relationship-maths admiration = love!

* Make him understand that your failure to admire him doesn’t mean that you are not happy with him! Tell your husband you need him whatever be the case!

* Finally make opportunities to express your admiration for him. Be frank whenever necessary and don’t inhibit yourself! Love gets divine only when expressed and not when deduced! Because once your love id deduced rather than expressed the person who deduces loses it’s original taste!

I believe you would slot in these pointers into your daily life to gain your husband back as soon as possible because you have got less time to admire but more patch-up work to be done!

Daniel is a recongised guru on relationships after being through his own martial issues. For more advice and information on how to get your husband back check out this site for more information about getting your husband back

Celebrating your wedding anniversary is the single perfect way to show to your spouse that you treasure your wedding moment and your life together. It automatically shows that you remembered the date that you got married and that you also want to celebrate it because it means a lot to you. If you have been married for a long time, you have probably seen that life is not always so romantic. Celebrating your wedding anniversary however shows that you are able to cope with all problems that might come along.

You could arrange a romantic dinner at a quiet restaurant with a relaxing and peaceful atmosphere. This will give the two of you a chance to enjoy some meaningful conversation without having to worry about the other aspects of life such as work or raising your children. This is a time to dedicate exclusively to each other. You could bring up in conversation certain shared experiences that were pleasant and memorable, and that helped to establish the bonds of romance between you. Think back to the first time you and your spouse met, and talk about it. Make sure to focus only on the positive aspects of your relationship, as you want your wedding anniversary to be enjoyable, with as little emotional drama as possible.

Buying a gift on your wedding anniversary is one way to let your partner know just how much he or she means to you. There are a variety of in teresting gifts you could purchase that your partner would appreciate, but try to find something that is personal or romantic. If the wedding anniversary you and your spouse are celebrating is a milestone, such as the 10-year mark, then a pair of anniversary rings could make an excellent gift. Wearing a ring that was given to commemorate 10 years of marriage will certainly go a long way towards making this wedding anniversary a special event that will be remembered for years to come.

On the other hand, you might be a young couple. If you are young and wild and have a totally different lifestyle, you can still make an exceptional anniversary. Choose a nice fancy club and go dancing all night. The anniversary is not all about being traditionally romantic; it is about celebrating your love. So, make sure that you choose any way you like to do that that will remain memorable to the two of you.

On the other hand, if you are romantic but still newlywed, you can try a simple idea. Open a bottle of champagne while walking at the sea shore. Watch the sunset or the stars in the sky or whatever you find romantic. There are certainly ways that you can celebrate this day in your life.

A wedding anniversary is a huge milestone and one that should be celebrated. In the fast paced life we live today it is very important to remember what is really important. Take the time to let the one you love that you appreciate them.

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Relationships should be a place for growth and comfort for both of those involved in it. If you feel in any way restricted and held back because of your partner, you need to take action to resolve the problem. Regardless of whether your relationship is 2 months or 10 years old, sometimes you suddenly realize “This is not working out”. Maybe you’ve realized that the relationship is unhealthy, or maybe you just feel like moving on. You should never feel like you’re stuck in a relationship, staying simply for your partner’s benefit.

This is unfair to both you and your partner, who needs to find someone who truly wants to be with her. Obviously, it’s your obligation to let your partner know about your feelings, as keeping your feelings to yourself will only cause more pain for both of you in the long run. Still, sometimes it’s not so simple. If you partner is needy and clingy, telling them that the relationship is over is a conversation that you’ll find any excuse to avoid. As a result, hundreds of thousands of guys find themselves stuck in unhappy relationships – but you don’t have to let that guy be you! Instead of allowing the relationship to go on forever, you need to start sowing the seeds that will enable the break up to happen. Although it may seem hard, the only obstacles are the ones which you create for yourself.

Firstly, you have to decide with certainty that it really is the end. You must be 100% sure, so take some time for yourself just prior to the break-up. This will help you gain confidence in your decision, as you will be able to have your ‘case’, and answers to her questions, ready. At this time, you can summon up some of the power it’s going to take to follow through. After a week or two, tell her straight that you’ve made up your mind that you need to leave this relationship. If you think that she will go berserk, you may need to do this over the phone or in writing (a letter or email). Yes, that’s right – a letter or email may be the most appropriate way to do this. Despite what you may have otherwise heard, it’s not essential to break up in person. By doing so, you will inevitably delay doing so, as no moment will seem ‘right’ for doing it.

Let her know that you know for certain that it’s time to move. Tell her that the magic and spark of the relationship is no longer there, and your feelings are more than just a passing phase, and that you have no future together. Be direct and honest, but don’t be cold and heartless. Don’t feel that you have to explain yourself and answer all of all her questions – sometimes the answer is simple, “Sorry, I don’t know why I feel this way, but I do”. Take steps to separate ASAP. If she wants to be stubborn and childish, you may have to tell her that you no longer wish to discuss the decision, otherwise you may be talking about it forever. Don’t propose that you two will be friends, as that isn’t something that she’ll want to hear. Maybe you can still be friends, but if that is to be so, then let it happen naturally, which may take some months.

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