About Relationships

India accommodates people belonging to many religions, caste and greed. They exist with one another as good friends and foes without discrimination or racial aversions. Still, our religious roots are so strong that we are hesitant to marry our son or daughter into another caste or religion. Only a few broad minded people look do not mind a inter caste marriage.

The main reason for this aversion is the difference in the culture or belief system. People today are well educated and they don’t limit themselves to any set boundaries or categories of people. They are broad minded and don’t look at fellow human beings as a personification of a religion or caste. Although the caste system has minimized when it comes to marriage some parents are still very hesitant. It is mainly the elders in the family who cannot digest this inter caste marriage.

New generation youngsters are very broad minded and they move along with everyone irrespective of caste or greed. It so happens that they might meet someone interesting who might not belong to the same religion. But they don’t mind this difference as much as they parents would. But times are changing and parents are realizing that their kid’s happiness is more important and try to accept this change with open mind. First it is important to realize that we are all human beings basically. Our belief in God or the spiritual system might be different but we all share the same flesh and blood.

For successful marriage both the families must forget their religious differences and try to get into a common ground where they can relate to one another as humans. They should not try to push in their own beliefs with the others and mutual respect for one another’s religion is a must. Try to sit together and finalize as to how the marriage should be conducted. To avoid misunderstanding it is best to get into a registered marriage followed by an elaborate reception. No particular religious formalities need to be followed. A general wedding unbiased by religion is a smart way to avoid unnecessary tension. Some people may prefer to perform the customs from both side and marry twice to keep both side of parents and family happy. But this brings burden of extra expenditure and it is more like wasting money and effort. Some couple prefers to go with register marriage and then throw lavish reception. This defiantly reduces the expenses and may keep everyone equally happy.

Today when we look at matrimonial columns and ads it is very encouraging to see many ads with “caste no bar”, inclusion. It reflects the transformations in the minds of people who are ready to embrace all people are equals. Habits and beliefs can be altered if only we can alter our attitude in life. Today’s changing time is defiantly helpful to bring this change about. New generation is inching towards making society liberal in real sense. Wedding are made in heaven and should we now question which religion’s heaven. Times have changed and so must our attitude towards life.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

In any wedding the bride has to do lot of things compared to a groom. Still there are certain things which a groom must also look into before his marriage. Today men have equal distraction like women as new designer clothing and accessories are flooding the market. Men are becoming more beauty conscious and spare time for their makeover like their female counter part.

It is the right time to refresh your wardrobe. Men are generally much unorganized and it is time they changed their ways and become more responsible and organized. Remember that the life partner is going to share his room, his belongings and so make way and clear the room to fit in her belongings too. Give your own private room a face life by getting new curtains and new furniture. Consider giving new look to your bedroom by using some dark colors and decorating it with meaningful articles. If possible take your fiancee for this personal shopping. This should also serve a good starter of your life as she may take it as your love and affection toward her. This also shows your seriousness and commitment towards new relationship.

Physical makeover is very important. It is best to get a general medical check just to make sure you are in your pinkest of health. Clean your teeth and get in to habit of brushing twice a day. Join an aerobics or yoga to bring your self in shape. Go for a great relaxing and detoxing massage and try to change your looks into more mature and manly rather than the funky teenager look. Get a beauty package with a local men’s parlor and visit them regularly for a nice make over. It is imperative because the atmosphere is polluted and your face needs a deep pore cleaning and cleansing once in a while.

Next important thing is to check your financial position before marriage. Formulate a financial plan on how you will make use of your salary after the marriage. Divide your expenses into categories like needs, necessities, savings and investment etc and then set aside a fixed percentage from your salary for these expenses. This systemized planning will be very beneficial in the long run. Finish all pending payments and sort out unfinished work load. Start saving as marriage is going to add responsibility and increase in expenditure.

If you plan to stay separate or away from the family then start looking for a decent home and try to furnish it and get it ready for occupancy after marriage. Find a place which is nearer to all basic amenities and also your office. No need to get one lavish out of budget house. Make a list of your friends whom you want to invite for your wedding and meet them in your free time to issue the invitations. Post outstation invitation well in advance or send an e-invite. Getting into a holy matrimony is a one time event in your life so try to be cheerful and spread the message of joy around you.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

A million dollar question, what makes a perfect bride, has no specify answer. But then her actions, attitude and character can identify her as a perfect bride in the long run. But then we are not going to talk about the features, or formula which can identify a perfect bride. Let us list out the most important things the bride must have before or on her wedding day.

As soon as the engagement is fixed she should enroll with a good beautician and start her beauty regime from head to foot. And she must also change her diet and have a balanced and nourishing food. Drink lots of water and exercise to keep fit. The next step is to sort out her belongings and choose what to keep and what to give away for charity. Clearing cluster is a good way to find long lost things too ironically. You never know what all you will get from under the piles of clothes and shoes piled in the cupboard.

Write down on paper the things that you will take to your in-laws including the details of the jewels and other precious jewellery. Carefully file your certificates and other documents which you might need for job or other purposes. Don’t forget to include your family photographs which will be a great solace when you are home sick. You may want to take some of your old toys, books, favorite cloths along with you. They will serve a starter for you as well as keep you emotionally worm and close to your mother’s home.

Shop only for what you don’t have. Don’t try to pile everything in one go. Buy only what you will need the most. Neatly pack and list them as you purchase. Try to get good books on matrimony or family care as it will give you an idea of what to expect and how to tackle. Learn basic cooking and try to include a special signature dish which you can make and impress the in-laws. Reading or getting some information on physical and physiological changes after marriage should be good as it will prepare you for the things going to come in your life soon. Your mother and best friends can be your first source of information. Rather than taking all the information as is try to understand the meaning of them and use it wisely according to your situation.

Try to keep in touch with all your friends and invite them personally for your wedding. Get their contact numbers and promise to keep in touch. Many women lose contact with their dear friends the moment they get married. You can also try to fix up a date once in a while for a get together. In internet age now there is lots of way to share photos online and communicate with friends. This may be your best way to keep touch with your friends. Last but not least keep smiling and be cheerful and have a positive outlook of life always. As our elders say there is no big ornament for a woman than a happy smile.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Afraid of your marriage? You might ask. But, there are people who do not want to talk about it and shut their ears on hearing the word marriage. Why do they fear marriage or what factors drove them to develop such an aversion towards marriage. For any human nature they might be a number of reasons like family, limitations, conditioning, and experience etc.

With some personal observation in society some people learn the hard lesson or get the negative impact of marriage. Marriages are made in heaven no doubt. But some marriages turn out to be hell because of various reasons. Some youngsters take these examples very seriously and fear to get married, thinking that their life might also be the same.

But this is not true and it is unpractical and illogical. We create our own live situations and it is not the fault of the bride or the groom. It is a very immature reasoning on the part of some youngsters today. Many feel that their freedom will be lost and they dread the idea of having a nagging wife around them 24/7. This thought is again influenced by television, movies and other media, which project woman as nagging housewives.

Someone might fear to get married due to some serious issues. They might have some psychological issues or health problems which might have instilled a fear for marriage. Kids learn from parents more and hence when a mom and father is always fighting and beating one another, it might create a negative impact and fear in the mind of the child watching them. Many are anxious and have a fear for the unknown.

You should determine what exactly you are scared of. Most people don’t fear marriage itself but rather, its implications and its potential failure or loss of freedum. One must understand that secumtanses keeps changing and so does people. What you think wrong today may be right tommorow. Address your fears. If your parents had a bad marriage the try to understand the issues behind that. You must understand that every marriage is different, and just because some wasn’t successful doesn’t mean yours can’t be. If you’re worried about the marriage falling apart or loosing your freedum, then make a list in your mind of what you can and will do to make the marriage work. Imagine all the scenarios that make you scared and then, try to imagine what you will do in that specific situation to make it better.

A good counselor should be able to guide someone who has this fear for marriages. They can point out the pros and cons of a marriage and then give valuable advice on how to overcome this fear and start a happily wedded life. All said and done the person must first trust this oldest institution called marriage. Only trust can drive fear away and allow tem to make a decision on whether to get married or not. Fearing marriage is baseless and with some mature understanding of this system life can be very fulfilling.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Every parent dreams about their children’s getting married to reach, educated and well settled family. Parents only want to find the best match for their children. When they look for a possible match they look at the long term benefit and security of their daughter or son. Especially the bride’s side is very cautious and alert while looking for a suitable groom. Many parents are very ambitious and look for grooms who live outside India. They feel the NRI groom is well settled in a foreign land and decides that their daughter will have a luxurious life in a far off land.

NRI marriage is not easy. There are many stories about NRI wedding. Many have been successful but some had problems. Still it is all about what the parents expect from a NRI groom or bride. Many families living in foreign lands still prefer their children to find an Indian bride who will understand their culture and give respect to the family. But that doesn’t mean other Indians who live among them have lost their culture. They may have adapted western culture in their day to day lifestyle but in their hart still be having respect and pride for Indian culture.

The bride’s parents should make all kinds of enquiry about the financial position of the groom in the foreign land. His assets, credits or any debt should also be enquired through a third person. Double caution should be exercised while searching for NRI grooms, as it is possible for the groom to hide facts or give faulty information. One may ask for credit burro report to check any possible debt and default history. Only real assets like property and savings should take in account while calculating net asset of the groom. Most of the time depreciating asset like car or other vehicle is use to inflate the financial position.

If groom is in US find out if he is going to settle there permanently or have plans to shift to India in the future. Many brides might want to settle there and thus this information is very important. Some grooms might even have gone there on H1 visa. Another important verification is to get a medical certificate which will ensure he is free from deadly diseases. You can never know his type of life style and one must be very sure before making a decision. You may also want to know his dependant family life style and obligations to draw correct financial picture.

Most important is to make sure that the bride is ok with the idea of living in an alien land and the prolonged delay in coming back home only once in few years. If she is going to be home sick or immature enough to handle such situation it is best to review the NRI groom. The bride must be bold enough to handle herself well courageously and must have the basic qualification and education to at least understand what is happening around her. Make a careful choice and always move forward only when you are comfortable with the details and the information provided.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Marriage in India is always been treated as holy union of souls. In Indian marriage the man and woman who get into matrimony become one and the same, just like the arthanareeshwara. The stories of Lord Shiva depict that he gave that half of his body to his wife Parvathy. This might sound like a story but then our ancestors instilled human value and morals through heavenly stories. It doesn’t mean literally sharing your body with your spouse which isn’t possible. But the deeper meaning depicts how a man should accept a woman as an equal in his life.

This story directs how a groom should accept, share and be ready to be part of the bride whom he weds and chooses to live for the rest of his life. Many think that it is the bride’s thing to do all the shifting and sacrificing after marriage. But for a household to run smoothly a man must know how to balance his work and his relationships back home.

Man should realize that the bride’s only hope and counsel after marriage is none other than he himself. There might be others at home like parents and sisters still she stepped into your household holding your hands and you brought her in to take care of her every need and not to just leave her alone in a totally new world. She needs your support and encouragement more than anything else.

After the marriage groom must talk to the bride and make her comfortable in her new home. He must inform her about who is what and how she can find help and comfort from him at any time. He must encourage her to share things with him and open up and be transparent. He should then try to make the family sit together for a chat or bring about more get together to make them comfortable with the new bride and to make the bride get used to her in laws. Festivals and some ones birth days in family are the great opportunities to bring every one inch closer.

On the other hand he must be careful not to get carried away with his new bride and try to behave his normal self as before. The mother is more emotionally affected in the marriage and hence he should give extra care to her and make her feel that his love for her will never fade. This conviction will help his mom to change her mind set about the bride.

The groom should understand that his in-laws are also as important as his own parents. He should respect them and treat them as his own parents. He should realize how much they will miss their daughter and how insecure they might be feeling about her new home. He should visit them or keep in touch with them to assure them that’s he is always there for his wife. Thus getting into a matrimony means both the groom and the bride should work together to make their marriage work. After all we have just one life to live.

Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Searching a life partner, especially your dream one isn’t that easy. It is even tough when a marriage is going to be arranged. There are so many things to consider from every family members point of view. There is a saying that marriage is like a more than 1000 year old crop. It is cherished, valued and protected by our Indian tradition. Unlike the west our values based on marriage is very high.

The dream prince charming is judged by his job, financial status, his family background and his physical appearance etc. The family of the bride should consider her opinion about her expectations in her future life partner. The views of the bride to be, is very important and should be duly respected. Every girl will have a dream about her spouse and hence the family should give her all support to find the man of her dreams. But girl must also understand that not all dreams come true and one may not get everything perfect. She should be ready and flexible to compromise on her right prince charming definition.

The most important compatibility factor depends upon the girl’s profile. If the girl is working in a particular city then she might expect someone from the same city, unless she is ready to relocate and find a better job. Many government employee especially teachers find it hard to get transferred to the place of the spouses and hence it is best to first decide about this issue. If the girl wishes to work then the groom and his family must accept this condition. Also make sure that groom and his family understands the girl’s profession and her responsibility and limitations.

The bride’s family must personally visit the groom’s office or business establishment to enquire about his designation and his character. They can also get checked through common friends. The job permanency and his salary details and his future in the company he is working must be analyzed. The transparency of details is very imperative for wise decisions.

One of the much other important information to be collected about the groom is to find out if he has any bad habits. Enquire about his mannerism and habits to make sure he isn’t a drug addict or an alcoholic. Now a days many ask for even medical reports just to be cautious about the groom’s health. It is good in a way to clarify such things to avoid future problems.

Another critical and one of the most affecting concerns is whether the groom lives in a joint family set up or not. If his job is placed locally then he might prefer living with his family. If of course he works in a different city he might set up his own family there. These details are very important as the bride can prepare herself for either the joint family set up or to live alone in a far off land. Open talk and unhurried clarification will help the bride’s family to choose the best groom for their daughter.

Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Getting married to a perfect man must be most joyous thought for every girl. Parents have brainstormed and after much research and handwork found the best suitable groom and the whole family is rejoicing. The real fun starts with the shopping for the bride’s collectibles. First comes the engagement and so everything from the hair clips to the slippers have to be unique and down to earth. It is a big wide world and one can easily be confused as to where to go for the wedding shopping.

So how to find best shopping places? Always trust your instincts and the words of your friends or relatives than the glossy advertisements which might catch your attention. Try to find out some recently wed brides and ask them first about what to buy and what not to buy. Experience speaks for itself and hence they might come out with excellent ideas for bridal shopping. They might also include things they forgot during their pre wedding shopping. Take all the tips from them.

Prepare a check list of what you have and what you need to buy before the marriage. Categorize it according to jewels, clothes, apparels, accessories etc. Find a best and affordable jeweler who is also trustable to make the bridal jewelry. Make wise choices when buying jewels. Look at hidden costs or service charges and always bargain a little before making the payment as every penny counts.

Want to look most beautiful? Yes, the bride must start a beauty regime with the first signs of her marriage. Find the best beautician in town and make a package plan till the wedding. This way you can get a decent discount on the charges you need to pay. Start immediately your total make over from head to foot if you want to be at your best on the wedding day. Back home drink a lot of water, eat healthy food and care for your health as never before.

marriage is a one day celebration yet you need to look your best in all ways. After all you are going to remember your marriage day through out your life. Try to coordinate with the stage decorators about their color scheme for the stage before choosing the apparel. Many a times the stage decorations are glossier than the brides dress. So be careful about the dress you choose. Get the matching accessories way in advance to avoid last minute tension.

Make sure that photographer or video recording guys is professional and experienced. This is very essential as amateur photographer would not be able to take your best snaps. You can give him advanced instructions about the kind of snaps you would like to have. You may also rehearse some of your best and important poses.

Preparation and well planning is absolute necessary to make sure everything happens according to your desire. As you buy things sort them out and organize them keep them safe. Its all about planning and getting organized so stay cool and wait for the most wonderful day of your life.

Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Indian Marriages mostly are arranged by elders and relatives. But unlike old days wherein the groom or the bride was not allowed for spouse selection, today parents allow their young children’s to make the final choice. They provide them with a list of possible would be brides and grooms who might suit their social status, community or caste. The short listed online profiles from matrimony sites or offline proposals from relatives are then scrutinized according to the tastes and preferences and then final decision made.

Gone are the days when very little information or family background was known publicly. The needed information must be enquired with the neighbors of other relatives and if the proposal is from a totally different sub caste or from someone living far off very little information can be collected. Unlike westerners for whom wedding simple means two people coming together, in India we believe in two families coming together. Hence a strong understanding must be felt even before the wedding.

What are the qualities to look for in a bride? Where to search for the best bride to-be? The individual expectations of a brides quality varies from person to person in a family. The mother of the groom might expect someone who can help her in daily chores, who is respectful to elders and who can adjust with the family. The groom might expect a beautiful girl to marry, with decent education and a job to support the family financially and to make hay for their future.

The family must first sit together and put in their expectation and come out with a common list of qualities to be expected from a bride. Then they can either convey this to the local marriage broker or register on matrimonial, or vivaha websites to hunt for the bride. The details provided at the matrimony sites are so inclusive that some even have images or video introduction of the bride. No need to cat walk with a tray of coffee tumblers anymore. Jokes apart, this s a very positive attitude as the family looking for a bride can decide instantly based on their preference.

A perfect bride who fits into the criteria of every ones expectation is thus selected very easily. It is possible to view the pictures, online profile of the bride and information about her community, education or family background at the click of the mouse using matrimony sites. Marriages, especially Indian Marriages are being finalized very fast this way as it saves time to personally exchange mails for verification.

Essential steps are to first decide the minimum required skills and their priority in bride. This must be done by groom by considering opinion of all elders in family. He also must choose the brides with right education and profession so that it can compliment rather than create conflict later point of time. Relatives should be able to help you finding out suitable bride. If that is not possible then best thing is to register on matrimony sites. These sites have millions of profiles. Searching using correct criteria should narrow down few best match profiles. Thereafter you can take the discussion further with interested profiles.

Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Searching a life partner, especially your dream one isn’t that easy. It is even tough when a marriage is going to be arranged. There are so many things to consider from every family members point of view. There is a saying that marriage is like a more than 1000 year old crop. It is cherished, valued and protected by our Indian tradition. Unlike the west our values based on marriage is very high.

The dream prince charming is judged by his job, financial status, his family background and his physical appearance etc. The family of the bride should consider her opinion about her expectations in her future life partner. The views of the bride to be, is very important and should be duly respected. Every girl will have a dream about her spouse and hence the family should give her all support to find the man of her dreams. But girl must also understand that not all dreams come true and one may not get everything perfect. She should be ready and flexible to compromise on her right prince charming definition.

The most important compatibility factor depends upon the girl’s profile. If the girl is working in a particular city then she might expect someone from the same city, unless she is ready to relocate and find a better job. Many government employee especially teachers find it hard to get transferred to the place of the spouses and hence it is best to first decide about this issue. If the girl wishes to work then the groom and his family must accept this condition. Also make sure that groom and his family understands the girl’s profession and her responsibility and limitations.

The bride’s family must personally visit the groom’s office or business establishment to enquire about his designation and his character. They can also get checked through common friends. The job permanency and his salary details and his future in the company he is working must be analyzed. The transparency of details is very imperative for wise decisions.

One of the much other important information to be collected about the groom is to find out if he has any bad habits. Enquire about his mannerism and habits to make sure he isn’t a drug addict or an alcoholic. Now a days many ask for even medical reports just to be cautious about the groom’s health. It is good in a way to clarify such things to avoid future problems.

Another critical and one of the most affecting concerns is whether the groom lives in a joint family set up or not. If his job is placed locally then he might prefer living with his family. If of course he works in a different city he might set up his own family there. These details are very important as the bride can prepare herself for either the joint family set up or to live alone in a far off land. Open talk and unhurried clarification will help the bride’s family to choose the best groom for their daughter.

Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.