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The best part about the wedding day is selecting the rings. Women love this part as jewelry is a girls best friend. Yet, you want to make sure that you get the right thing for the right price and that you get the right service. So, for those of you wondering how do I select my wedding jeweller, we have the answers for you of things to keep in mind and check out before hand.

One of the first things you do is look for the jewelers that are closest to you. You want to make sure you aren’t driving all over Canada for this. There should be some pretty decent ones in your area. Just open your phone book and jot a few down to look up and do more research on.

The next thing is to see if there are any reviews of them. If you don’t have any reviews about the jewelleries that you have picked out, then ask around. Sometimes wedding blogs will have where people can post things. Other times, you can ask people who have been married about if they have heard anything. This will give you an idea about how reputable they are.

Another thing you want to check is the merchandise that they have available. When you do this, you should also be checking to see how they work with you. They should be asking you what you are looking for and you should be able to find something that pleases you. It should be top quality jewelry too.

Next, as we said above, you want someone who is willing to help you. You should get great customer service. Customer service is something that you must get. This is how you get what you are looking for. They should be willing to show you a few pieces and answer any question that you have.

When you ask questions, some of them questions should be about payment. If you are going to a high end jeweler, you might find that you might have to pay a pretty penny. However, you should be able to put the ring in layaway or find a payment plan that you might qualify for. This shows that they value your service. You might also want to find out about other things you might need like resizing and things of that nature.

The last thing that you really need to look into is to see how long it will take you to get your item. Make sure you order well enough in advance. You want to make sure that you have plenty of time because that can be a little awkward. There are policies and such for getting your items and you need to know that you will get your item and if you don’t or you have a problem with it, then they will take care of it.

Now that you have an understanding of how to go about looking for a jeweller then you are well on your way. You will have the best rings ever. They mean forever and therefore, you want to get something of quality. When you do your research, then you are well on your way to receiving the rings that you were destined to have.

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Waxing poetic on the subject of love and marriage, Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet said, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” Gibran is not suggesting that couples take an occasional breather from each other (although that might be a good idea, too). In beautiful, lyrical language Gibran reminds us not to lose ourselves in our relationship, but to maintain our individuality, and that by doing so we are stronger as a couple.

The passage includes this, ” And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart . . .” I would happily trade a valuable body part for the ability to write like Gibran but no one has offered that deal so I’m stuck with elaborating in my far less lyrical way. “Togetherness” is not about being joined at the hip. “Togetherness” is about the emotional and mental bond that connects you and, like the pillars of the temple, supports your relationship even when you are physically separated. It’s the reservoir of strength you draw on when you need to be strong. It’s the hand at your back when you need encouragement. It’s the well of confidence you tap into when your self-belief wavers.

The Gibran passage concludes with, “And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” “Togetherness” is not about being each other’s clone. It’s the freedom to be who you are without fear of losing love. It’s permission to make mistakes, change and grow. It’s willingness to learn at each other’s knee.

“Togetherness” is the cornerstone of emotional intimacy and when you experience unadulterated togetherness, it’s akin to being in a state of grace.

So, look, the next time you’re about to make some snarky comment to your sweetie, or let loose with a piece of your mind, or turn a cold shoulder, or go to that he’s-such-a-jerk or she’s-such-a-witch place, or “forget” to keep a promise, or shrug off your partner’s wishes, or, well, you get the picture, ask yourself if what you’re about to say or do will put a chink in your “togetherness.” Too many chinks and you’ll slip right into “aloneness” and that sucks. Protect and honor your “togetherness” by being thoughtful, kind, loving, generous, supportive, understanding and, well, you get the picture here, too.

From Gibran . . .

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

From me . . .

“Togetherness.” It’s way cool. Go for it.

Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach, speaker, and Amazon bestselling author of Frequent Foreplay Miles – Your Ticket to Total Intimacy, available through Amazon.com and other booksellers. Shela’s common-sense approach to relationship advice has helped many couples improve intimacy and strengthen marital bonds.

A white wedding in a church with a horse and carriage may be every young woman’s dream, however the concept of marriage as a union between a man and woman (and sometimes between men and women – note the plural) has its roots several thousand years before Christianity. Marriage is also a universal concept which has developed in numerous cultures around the world even though they have not had direct contact with each other.

So how has the idea of a man and woman setting up a union come about?

First off, where did the word marriage come from? Well “marriage” first originated in the English language in the mid-13th Century, and came from the Old French “marier” but, the French themselves had stolen it from the Romans – “maritare” being Latin for “to marry”.

The oldest written reference to the institution of marriage comes from Hammurabi’s Code of Ancient Mesopotamia (broadly covering modern day Iraq), and where the first permanent cities were established. This takes us back to around 1800 B.C., almost 4,000 years ago, however the custom of marriage certainly pre-dates even this.

Marriage came to Europe via the Ancient Greeks, but there were no set rules or procedures to be followed to create a lawful union. All that was required was mutual consent of bride and groom and that both acknowledged each other as their respective spouse. It is from the Spartans (of the 300 fame) who started the European tradition for men to marry in their 30’s and women as early as possible. The logic was that the men would have completed (and survived) military service (and this was a time when living to your 40’s was considered to be “old age”), while for women, if you wanted a virgin when you married it was considered best to marry a woman as young as possible.

More importantly, the Ancient Greeks also set the very clear pattern of marrying for position, wealth and power. The idea you married because you loved someone was irrelevant – sentimentality or feelings did not come into what was a commercial transaction between families looking to advance or protect their own positions. Upon becoming a wife, a Greek woman lost practicality all of her rights which has taken over 2,000 years to reverse (and is still continuing in most parts of the world today).

The neighboring Romans adopted the custom from the Greeks, though they added a further layer of legality and ceremony to the concept. There were several different forms of marriage in the Roman Empire and which version was used depended on whether the woman was to join her husband’s family or remain associated with her own. A “free” marriage allowed the wife to own her own property and retain her own family’s name, but more importantly, she (and her original family) kept any property she owned or inherited within her own family. It was more traditional for a woman to be simply “transferred” to her husband and his family; the wife lost her right to inherit property from her old family and found herself under the total authority of her husband and his family.

Christianity arose out of the ashes of the Roman Empire, however it was not until this radical, new religion was over 100 years old that the idea of a religious implication was developed in connection with marriage. Until then, and for a long time afterwards, Christians married in much the same way as everyone else – a family arrangement, usually negotiated without any pretense of emotion or love between the parties. As Christianity gained traction in the Roman Empire, it became clear that this “moral” religion should take a stand that marriage should bein accordance with the laws of God and not simply an expedient business deal.

By the 12th Century, it had become compulsory for wives to take their husband’s surname and additional layers of legality and ceremony were added. By the mid-16th Century, the bride and groom had to have the consent of a number of people to get married – usually their parents and the Church, but if you were a noble or a landowner, you may have needed the permission of the King! The Church’s permission was integrated into the ritual because it opposed the formation of marriages by children, sometimes even babies, by their families. We ought to thank the Church for the fact that free-will became an established feature of modern Western marriage. Before the Church, you married who your parents or patriarch told you to marry!

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You’re in the military and want to get married – what do you need to do?

Well, if you’re stationed back home, there are no special requirements and you only need to comply with the laws of the State within which you are getting married. Typically, get a marriage license, maybe satisfy a residency test and find an authorized officiant to perform the service.

Getting married while stationed in the US is obviously a straight-forward affair – there is no need to gain special permission or clear any hurdles other than those facing civilians.

The issue becomes less straight forward when you are based overseas. Even more so if your bride or groom-to-be are foreign nationals.

If you are based overseas but marrying a US citizen, the situation is not much more different than getting married in the States. If you get married on a US base, you are subject to US law in any event and the marriage is viewed as having taken place on US soil in any event. Getting married on base is fairly common where there is a permanent station, typically in the European or Pacific theaters (not so common in the Middle East for obvious reasons). Base chaplains are able to officiate in a wide variety of denominational and non-denominational ceremonies, so you can get married however you wish.

There are also no immigration issues where both parties are U.S. citizens, but here comes the real trouble – your intended spouse is a foreign national.

If you are marrying a foreign national, you will be required to complete a large number of forms and embark on quite a lengthy process.

Your intended spouse will be required to undergo a background security check and a medical examination, all in addition to completing marriage counselling course and obtaining the permission of your commanding officer. Be prepared to spend months on this process, not least because you will have to have the marriage recognized by the U.S. Embassy and the U.S. Department of State who will also be responsible for the granting of the necessary visa permissions for your spouse to enter the U.S.

Your spouse is also likely to be a civilian, but irrespective of where you get married or who performs the ceremony, they are now entitled to military rights and privileges which they derive from you. Use a certified copy of the marriage certificate and register the marriage and your spouse with the Base Personnel HQ. You will also be able to get a separate military ID for your civilian spouse and have them enrolled in the Defense Eligibility Enrollment Reporting System (DEERS), which will qualify them for medical coverage, commissary privileges and other military benefits.

One thing to watch for – if you are subject to a Permanent Change of Station (PCS) order – if you get married before the change of station, you can have your spouse added to your orders and the military will cover the cost of relocating them (including their possessions). You can leave your old base, take time off to get married and have a honeymoon and then report to the new base – the trigger is whether you have reported to the new station. If you wait until after you report to the new duty station, you end up paying for the cost of moving your spouse.

If you have any issues or questions on getting married while serving in the military, check out the information available from your Base Personnel HQ and the various booklets from the U.S. Department of Defense and your service branch.

Lawrence Reaves has seen many of his friends navigate the tricky waters of military marriage, and always recommends that they buy their diamond engagement rings and wedding rings from Danforth Diamond.

You have met, in maybe the most interesting of situations, or maybe the most casual. You have liked each other, decided to hang out a while, and did, or maybe you have just met and decided that you two are the ones who you both have been expecting and dreaming about. You have told your families and friends about each other, and that you are thinking of marrying each other. Or maybe you told no one, and this is happening secretly, or maybe in a rush, that you did not have any time to tell anybody! Nevertheless, you have gathered some people to be in your wedding, you have decided where it will be, and arrived there in time. Thinking of nothing, but marrying each other.

Everything must be ready, set in order, and guaranteed to make no mistake. The priest, the wedding cake, the boxes of rose petals that are going to be showered down on you two, your clothes, your perfume, your appearance, your haircut, and most importantly, yourself. Yes, yourself. You have called upon your family priest, you have made ready the best wedding cake with 9 floors, that the world has ever seen. You have little maidens to shower you with roses, you bought awesome clothes and perfume. But are you, ready to face this day? Did you, really, make up your mind of this decision clearly? You must remember that a hesitation of a second could ruin the day. If your hand shakes for just half a second, on the sign chart, you might ruin your wife or husband with disappointment and maybe instill distrust that you two must not get over for all those years you will be living together. Are you really sure that you want to, live with him/her for the rest of his life? Are you sure, after some time, after some events and after some changes, your idea will stay the same? That you, or him, will stay the same? It is maybe the hardest thing to tell for you need to be gifted with foreseeing. Or able to anticipate what is going to be in a long period of time. Have you two decided what to do with your life? Have you two talked about what changes you might encounter, over this time? Or if you two want child, now or later or any time? What if you have a dream, a life aspiration that cannot drag someone else than you alone, with it? What if what you want to be in the future, requires you to change in a great deal, which might cause him, to not like you any more?

These are some of the few reasons that marriages end up with separation. Remember that this is the moment that may be the climax of your life, this might be the most important moment of your life, this might be the most, happy or sad moment of your life. If you want to live the rest of your life with happiness, or maybe contend. You must think of these, and share what you think with the one you are thinking of marriage.

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It is maybe the most important moment of your life. You are going to, at last, make it public that you have chosen the one that you are thinking of living your entire life with, maybe have children, or maybe set out for adventurous journeys around the world! But most importantly, it is the day that you make it public, that you will be with that particular person in life or death, it happiness or sadness, in good time and bad time, and possibly, all the time! This will be a day that all your beloved ones will take photos of you, congratulate you and share your happiness, share the rejuvenation you are feeling! Therefore, it should be a day everyone must remember to be a great one!

First of all, you need someone to record the day. Remember that even if it goes brilliant and flawless, or turns out to be a complete disaster, you will be happy after some time, watching what happened all those years ago, in your wedding day. You will hold hands and laugh softly, and you will remember how much you two love each other, which would renew the spirit in your wedding again. You have watched the couples you have known before, either at their wedding day or the video of it. Did you see any of them getting angry or uncomfortable watching it? No! Because it has been so long time and no one really cares! They just remain as good memories of the past! The wife, falling on the floor because of her long dress? The groom spilling the cake on his suit, or completely causing it to fall apart? No, these are just nuisances of the time and real fun of the future, that you two are going to share memories of! So do never ever think of not recording the day, or do not think of it would be bad, in any way! I do not say do not get excited, for it will have no use.

Your parents arrive and tell about how did their wedding go. They might try convincing you to do it the same way, or maybe they advise you to do so. Your friends might tell about their own weddings and advise you certain things. Follow only the advices that would grant a safe and secure wedding. Apart from that, if you want it to be a day you will never forget, not even without the records, you MUST make it something unique! Think of it, think about your own interests and hobbies, think of your soon-to-be husband or wife’s hobbies and interests. And arrange such a thing that, you two would never forget! This is indeed going to show each other how much you want this and how important this wedding is to you. It is not a skill to do just as what someone else says, it is to find something unique and that will express your love. An unique wedding, is the essential thing for it to be legendary, so do not pass, for this might be the most sublime day of your life!

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Celebrating your wedding anniversary is the single perfect way to show to your spouse that you treasure your wedding moment and your life together. It automatically shows that you remembered the date that you got married and that you also want to celebrate it because it means a lot to you. If you have been married for a long time, you have probably seen that life is not always so romantic. Celebrating your wedding anniversary however shows that you are able to cope with all problems that might come along.

You could arrange a romantic dinner at a quiet restaurant with a relaxing and peaceful atmosphere. This will give the two of you a chance to enjoy some meaningful conversation without having to worry about the other aspects of life such as work or raising your children. This is a time to dedicate exclusively to each other. You could bring up in conversation certain shared experiences that were pleasant and memorable, and that helped to establish the bonds of romance between you. Think back to the first time you and your spouse met, and talk about it. Make sure to focus only on the positive aspects of your relationship, as you want your wedding anniversary to be enjoyable, with as little emotional drama as possible.

Buying a gift on your wedding anniversary is one way to let your partner know just how much he or she means to you. There are a variety of in teresting gifts you could purchase that your partner would appreciate, but try to find something that is personal or romantic. If the wedding anniversary you and your spouse are celebrating is a milestone, such as the 10-year mark, then a pair of anniversary rings could make an excellent gift. Wearing a ring that was given to commemorate 10 years of marriage will certainly go a long way towards making this wedding anniversary a special event that will be remembered for years to come.

On the other hand, you might be a young couple. If you are young and wild and have a totally different lifestyle, you can still make an exceptional anniversary. Choose a nice fancy club and go dancing all night. The anniversary is not all about being traditionally romantic; it is about celebrating your love. So, make sure that you choose any way you like to do that that will remain memorable to the two of you.

On the other hand, if you are romantic but still newlywed, you can try a simple idea. Open a bottle of champagne while walking at the sea shore. Watch the sunset or the stars in the sky or whatever you find romantic. There are certainly ways that you can celebrate this day in your life.

A wedding anniversary is a huge milestone and one that should be celebrated. In the fast paced life we live today it is very important to remember what is really important. Take the time to let the one you love that you appreciate them.

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Marriage can be one of the trickiest things in the world. It is partially because you can only control yourself and not the other person. There will be times when you do not see eye to eye or feel like you`re going through a rough patch. It`s important to know that marriage is an up and down experience that will grow with you as you do! There are some simple ideas that can help keep you and your partner in a happy marriage.

Marriage is supposed to be for life and that means that ideally you would get married and be married forever. For many people they don`t get that far. And it`s either that forever just seemed too long, or that the couple grew apart. There are several ways that marriages can be saved and recovered and maintained so that couples do not have to drift apart from each other.

It`s important to realize that being married means that you will spend a long time with that one person. And people change as they grow older. You might have met your spouse when you were a teenager and as you get older wonder why things aren’t the same as they used to be. You have to remember that people change from decade to decade. In your twenties you might have found more things funny, spent a bit too much money and went out every weekend. While now you find that quite evenings at home are best and that you don`t want to spend a dime.

Your spouse might not like the new changes, or you might not like that way that your spouse is acting, spending their time or behaving. The best thing to do is to try to grow along with your spouse. That involves keeping date nights once a week and try to get involved in the other person`s interest.

Keeping a date night once a week is a great way to stay connected and feel special. It is easy for married couples to put their marriage on the back burner, because there are lots of other things in life such as kids, work, money and situations that are out of our control. Having a night out creates a sense that your marriage is important and special.

Date nights do not have to cost any money. They can involve a late night walk, a bike ride, or inexpensive picnic of peanut butter sandwiches, sometimes the simpler the better. Although most couples do enjoy a nice dinner from time to time.

Sharing interests does not mean that you have to do everything with your spouse. It is important to find new things to do together that can keep things fun and new, while keeping some interests and hobbies separate. It is healthy for couples to still have a sense of independence and if you don`t does everything together than you have something to talk about on your date nights!

It is also crucial to remember that you need to be flexible with each other. You can`t control the other person, but you do require some respect. That means that your spouse should be able to go out with friends and co-workers and do extracurricular things such as a weekend away with a buddy, as long as they let you know and keep you posted.

Keeping a marriage happy is all about trusting the other person, loving them and growing with them on whatever crazy path they may take. And know that rough periods happen, expect them and move ahead from there.

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Through an accident of nature, or more likely through the subliminal messages of Walt Disney, marriage is a state that we strive for as an ideal life ‘goal’ from a young age. How soon we wish to realise this goal varies from person to person, but nonetheless there it shines for the majority of us, an eventual wish for eternal companionship, for loyalty, and perhaps to create a new family unit of our own. However, Mr Disney, Miss Austen, Mr Shakespeare and all the great romantics of our literary heritage have a lot to answer for. With all misunderstandings fallen away, the heroine and the hero, the princess and her prince stroll off hand-in-hand into the sunset and here our interest wanders, the novel ends, the closing credits scroll down the screen. We don’t question the couple’s life together. We assume they will be eternally happy.

But what happens after the sunset? Marriage is accompanied by so many weighty expectations, both positive and negative: as a solution, as the end of youthful amusements. But here are five things that won’t actually change when you marry, despite popular belief, and you shouldn’t expect them to. Whether you met your partner through a Dating web site, through friends or by romantic coincidence, marriage should by no means completely transform your relationship.

Your Sex-life

The assumption that married couples have less sex is an abundant myth. In fact, recent research has shown that married people are 25% to 300% more sexually active than non-married people, with 43% of married men having sex at least twice a week. Pregnancy, or age are certainly factors that affect a couple’s sex life, but marriage itself is certainly not a deterrent here and shouldn’t be seen as one.

Your Habits

Some couples see marriage as a reforming state, promising to give up smoking or change their ways after saying their vows. But, people do not change overnight; you will still be the same person despite those two little words. Couples shouldn’t expect the little annoyances of the relationship to fade away after marriage and should have and hold all of their partner’s attributes, both positive and negative.

Your Happiness

Happiness depends on so many factors, and the belief that being married will change you into an always happy, always smiling individual is completely unfounded. Yes, finding love does contribute a great deal to your happiness, but you cannot base your whole state of mind on your partner. You will still, as ever, need to find ways and pursuits to contribute to your personal happiness as an individual.

Your Needs

Attention and effort should not be things that change when you marry either. Many can tend to see the wedding ceremony as the end of a need to impress as ‘now I’ve won, why should I make any more effort?’ This attitude may be the reason that the divorce rate is so high, as many neglect their dearest, feeling that they are too safe in their married state. But the level of effort and attention should be the same, if not higher than it was before you married. This is the only way to maintain your relationship and happiness together.

Whether you’re Dating in Birmingham, Bristol, London, Aberdeen – wherever you are – do not let your expectations about marriage guide you. Some things change, certainly, but many stay the same and you should realise this before making the commitment. Being realistic rather than a Disney romantic could lead to a happier idea of marriage for everyone.

It can be rightly said that the world is revolving around strange situations in today’s time and circumstances which seemed impossible a few years ago and are becoming a reality now. One such instance can be quoted as the occurrence of gay marriages which even though is becoming very frequent but still appears to be impossibly unacceptable to a great percentage of the society. Gay marriages has created a dramatic stir in the entire concept of marriages and when we look more closely into the matter it feels like the essence of this spiritual relationship of the body and soul cannot be in the true sense designated to gay marriages.

Now to add a fierce point in this whole argument for gay marriages, there is something extremely theatrical to take note of. If we totally try to point out the major facts which lead to a normal marriage, it can be shortly described as a relationship for life between two people of opposite sexes, having an acceptable difference in ages and who are not related by family. So, the main argument starts from here wherein, if one of the clause of the above statement is disrupted, isn’t it possible that the other clauses might as well be faltered by other people in the society? In short, if same sex marriages are accepted, what will the morale of our community be when polygamous, pederastic or incestuous marriages start taking place simply because the society gave a heads up signal for gay marriages? This specific argument has been taken from wisdom words of William Eskridge. He put forth the ’slippery slope’ argument which actually goes as “Once you start going down the slope, you tend to slip to the bottom.”

Eskridge’s statement seems absolutely true considering today’s world wherein ethics have no place in the faster sophisticated lives. So, if marriages between same sex becomes possible, how can anyone point out that any other form of dysfunctional marriage is absolutely nonsense and untrue? If absurdity becomes ‘normal’, then who can stop the direction of impossible relationships? When we talk about marriages, there is always a logic and sense which puts together the reason that a man and woman want to be together. If there is no reason behind the concept of marriage, then necrophilics and zoophiles also seem pretty normal and no one can even stop bestiality or the attraction towards inanimate objects.

It should be clearly understood that when one of the facts in the slope slip, it is not too hard to see the other points too slowly slipping away. Marriage is not a game or play nor is it just the controversial topic to speak and debate about. Marriage is a sanctum of purity, spiritualism and oneness. It is the feeling which ties a man and woman together for the rest of their lives to face the trials and tribulations with love and courage and to move ahead being stronger and appreciating the fact that love is the energy which propels each and every particle on earth.

‘Slippery Slope’ argument definitely takes the argument on gay marriages to a relatively newer planet and seeks in to comprehend factors and circumstances which society would not think about in the usual course of life.

The author takes active part on the situation of gays and gay marriages. Learn more about Gay marriages and the uprising debates and arguments on the subject.