About Relationships

Waxing poetic on the subject of love and marriage, Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet said, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” Gibran is not suggesting that couples take an occasional breather from each other (although that might be a good idea, too). In beautiful, lyrical language Gibran reminds us not to lose ourselves in our relationship, but to maintain our individuality, and that by doing so we are stronger as a couple.

The passage includes this, ” And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart . . .” I would happily trade a valuable body part for the ability to write like Gibran but no one has offered that deal so I’m stuck with elaborating in my far less lyrical way. “Togetherness” is not about being joined at the hip. “Togetherness” is about the emotional and mental bond that connects you and, like the pillars of the temple, supports your relationship even when you are physically separated. It’s the reservoir of strength you draw on when you need to be strong. It’s the hand at your back when you need encouragement. It’s the well of confidence you tap into when your self-belief wavers.

The Gibran passage concludes with, “And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” “Togetherness” is not about being each other’s clone. It’s the freedom to be who you are without fear of losing love. It’s permission to make mistakes, change and grow. It’s willingness to learn at each other’s knee.

“Togetherness” is the cornerstone of emotional intimacy and when you experience unadulterated togetherness, it’s akin to being in a state of grace.

So, look, the next time you’re about to make some snarky comment to your sweetie, or let loose with a piece of your mind, or turn a cold shoulder, or go to that he’s-such-a-jerk or she’s-such-a-witch place, or “forget” to keep a promise, or shrug off your partner’s wishes, or, well, you get the picture, ask yourself if what you’re about to say or do will put a chink in your “togetherness.” Too many chinks and you’ll slip right into “aloneness” and that sucks. Protect and honor your “togetherness” by being thoughtful, kind, loving, generous, supportive, understanding and, well, you get the picture here, too.

From Gibran . . .

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

From me . . .

“Togetherness.” It’s way cool. Go for it.

Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach, speaker, and Amazon bestselling author of Frequent Foreplay Miles – Your Ticket to Total Intimacy, available through Amazon.com and other booksellers. Shela’s common-sense approach to relationship advice has helped many couples improve intimacy and strengthen marital bonds.

Filipino girls and women are quite renowned for their beauty. The question that is uppermost is where would a person find a Filipino bride? The answer lies in the fact that in order to seek a Filipino bride, you would have to chat online and seek the help of the online dating sites that offer dating services for Filipino girls.

Philippine dating services ensure that men get to interact with Filipino girls and women, for the purpose of dating and ultimately marriage. It is a free of cost service where you can meet Filipino girls and women who suit your requirements pertaining to your search for an ideal partner. In order to meet your partner, you should register with the free of cost online Philippine dating services and then create your personal profile. As soon as your profile is incorporated into the dating site, you will be able to find your ideal match amidst the Filipino girls. Create a good profile with a noticeable write-up about yourself and also include a good photograph in the profile. This will ensure that your profile is noticed by the prospective brides. Thus, you can initiate the process to seek your bride.

Filipino girls and women are beautiful. They possess undoubted love, loyalty and respect for their husbands. Filipino girls look younger than their actual age. They are characterized by their young features and most noticeably, their straight, silky hair. As honesty is one of their virtues, Filipino girls are considered to be ideal marriage material.

Filipino women attach a lot of importance to their relationships and most importantly, to marriage. They have a lot of respect for their elders. Filipino women prefer to work after marriage so there is a probability that she would help you financially as well. They have a rare quality of multi-tasking so if you decide to marry a Filipino girl, you would be getting the best of both worlds.

Filipino women are also on the lookout for good and trusting men with whom they can share their life. They are ideal partners as they are trustworthy, reliable and they are good homemakers as well. This is primarily the reason why Filipino women are greatly in demand.

In order to meet the ideal Filipino woman of your dreams, all that you have to do is to register with an online dating service. These services are free of cost and also ensure that you interact with the ideal Filipino woman of your choice. Register with the site and then create a good profile. It is imperative that you should ensure that your profile is quite attractive to the Filipino girls. Once you interact with them, it is up to you to meet them and to get to know them in person. This will lead the way to forging a great bond with them which might culminate in marriage.

Filipino women are quite trusting and they look for the same quality in their men as well. It is better to be honest at the very onset as you can then be assured of a great partner. Just register with any of the free Philippine online dating sites and you are ready to meet your partner Here’s wishing you luck in your search for an ideal Filipino bride.

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When I was fourteen, my family was new in town and I started attending a church youth group absolutely stocked with beautiful, beautiful girls to my fourteen year old eyes. When interacting with them, the one constant theme was, “I don’t know what to do.” So I either did nothing or did something reasonably stupid. This pattern continued with little development well into my college years. That’s it. I just didn’t know what to do. I was afraid, but I was afraid primarily because I didn’t know what to do. I desperately wanted many girls over the years to be interested in me. I was a “serial crusher”, one girl or another would grab my interest, and I usually knew her socially, but I just didn’t know what to do. I was eighteen before it really even occurred to me that I could just ask a girl out.

It’s a painful feeling, not knowing what to do. You want something, and you know you want it but see absolutely no way of getting it. Of course, it was more complex, many factors associated with just general awkwardness and maturity were there, but I didn’t seem to be “growing out of it”. A “phase” doesn’t last for years. When I discovered my first “How to Talk to Women” book, it was amazing. Now I did know what to do. A funny thing happened, it worked. At least for a while, and then the next book worked for a while, and the next. Now at this point I could give some trite line like, “I learned to just be myself, and they worked because I believed in myself,” or some other useless drivel, but I won’t. What all of these books gave me was something that was true, even if not completely true, because it did work. They did help me because “I believed in myself,” but more importantly they helped me see a self I could believe in. They all helped me know what to do.

What to do is this. ACTE: Assess the Situation, Create a Simple Plan, Take Action, and Evaluate. I didn’t invent this and have to give credit to an ex-Navy SEAL author named Richard Machowicz, although he didn’t invent this either, but I heard it first from him. I think its powerful because, whether I called it this at the time or not, it was the process I was following. What the books and experience of others helped give me was an understanding of their ACTE processes and what worked and what didn’t. What the Christian authors I was also reading helped give me was a greater understanding about the nature of men and women in general in a way that provided real standards to shoot for and why. If you follow this plan, it will get you closer to your goal. It will require some discipline to stick to it, but as long as you’re not always willfully weak ignorant or malicious, you will not only get closer to some far off hazy goal, but actually feel better before, during, and after your contacts with women.

Assessing the Situation is basically opening your eyes up to what’s going on, noticing your surroundings, your current mood, and the mood of the girl you have in mind, indicated by her body language and a kind of animal sense we all possess in noticing how others around us are feeling. You also have a clear goal in your mind, ultimately its marriage, but you have to meet her and date her first (or court if you prefer the term). Creating a simple plan and taking action means do the best you know at the time. You know doing nothing won’t work, so just take a second to think and then do what seems best. As long as its not overtly immoral, just do it.

Evaluate is a little more tricky and is the absolute crux, its where most people fall short and wind up failing. It means taking an honest look at what happened afterwards whether it went successfully or not. For example, there was a time when I thought I was being successful because I got a ton of numbers, but since these numbers ended up not panning out, I was missing the fact that, even though she gave me her number, she didn’t seem that excited about the prospect at the time. Also, even if you did everything right based on your experience and the experiences of others but it didn’t work with a particular girl, you know that what you had was not necessarily a bad plan. Evaluate. See the good and bad and make a note. So the next time you Create a Simple Plan, it will be based on a clearer view of Assessing the Situation and figuring out your options.

Over time, your knowledge of what works and what doesn’t will get clearer and more readily accessible. Just exercising your faculties of judgement and courage will have a great masculinizing effect and make you feel better about the whole process. If you ACTE, you will always know what to do.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

Since the beginning of time, in nearly every romance story, the hero gets the girl. The only problem is, I haven’t seen many dragons lately, unless you count the alligators in the bayou near my house, and honestly they’re not bothering anyone as a general rule. We all know courage is intimately bound up with winning a woman’s heart, but the problem is either we don’t know exactly how to be courageous, or the idea we have of courage is something that can’t be practically demonstrated in front of a girl unless you’re someone like a firefighter. And even in that case, there has to be a fire going on right then.

The truth is, courage is simpler than you think. Once you grasp its true nature, you will see that not only do opportunities for courage abound, but that it has been an intimate part of your life for a long time. Courage has the word couer as its root, the French word for heart. We all have times where we do something “heartily”, where you really throw yourself into something. Whether its playing sports or playing video games, we have all habitually done some things heartily.

If you call to mind what it’s like and observe it; it’s a time where the transition between noticing something (the placement of the ball or hearing approaching zombies) and acting on it is smooth and fast. Your actions may not always pay off, but as long as you’re really into what you’re doing they pay off more often than not. And when you’re playing really well, you know intuitively when to think and when to act so that you don’t just rush around to no benefit, and you don’t miss opportunities while you’re standing and thinking. The exact same thing happens when dealing with women. When you hold back, when you don’t let your spirit rise up and forward, she senses this, if even only on an animal level. But when you are not holding back, she notices this too. And if you’re not even afraid where most other guys are, she notices that too.

The process is this: knowledge always comes first, then judgement, and then action. Knowledge, in some ways can’t really be stopped. Your mind is powerful and is sensing gigantic amounts of information even when you’re not consciously choosing to think about it. Judgement is when you decide what to focus on. Good judgement means respecting knowledge, and where you go wrong is bad judgement, when you ignore what you know. Action is the follow up.

Here is how bad judgement usually happens: You know you want to get married eventually. You know a certain girl interests you. And you know that being passive doesn’t work. Bad judgement usually happens when you start ignoring these things. Good judgement dictates that you take action because nothing will ever really happen with a woman unless you take action. Then, you observe the result of your action. Either the girl wasn’t interested, in which case you should probably stop doing that and try something else. Or she was interested, in which case you can file that away as a nugget that will probably work again in the future.

But typically, we don’t follow our judgement and get solid real-world experience. We want to wait until we have a real feeling of certainty that she is interested. From my own experience, if that feeling ever arrives, it turns out to be false. Instead of simply acting and seeing the result, we wait and wait, anticipating that a positive result will come on its own without having to put ourselves on the line at all. This is the very opposite of courage.

This is why courage is a virtue. It is a muscle and exercising it becomes easier, but it always takes a little push at the start before your feelings line up with taking action. Just like on a rollercoaster, you never really feel like starting out until you have already gone over the first hill. Courage not only moves you toward your goal, but it also provides the benefit of making you feel stronger and better whenever you exercise it; however, all the benefits only come after you do it.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

It is sometimes difficult to trust your inner self when as a child you were taught that your parents know more than you and you have to listen and follow and you felt what you thought was not important only the elders knew more.

Deny your Feelings

Forget about you having to eat certain food because you had difficult with it in another life or it gives you gas or it just does not react well to your body or you don’t like it “I am your parent and I know what’s best for you and I will not start cooking for every child in the family, you have to eat what I cook” may be the answer and so you deny your feelings because the adult knows more than you about your likes or dislikes.

The Child is Unable to Say

Forget about what you want to wear at kinder garden “you are too small to know or tell me I am the parent and you have to follow what I say.”

The child is unable to say “the clothes itches my skin or I get tease from other kids or I cannot play easily in these clothes or I simply do not like it for this would be going against the parents wishes, their time and what they are able to provide.”

Your Parents Work

Your parents work hard for their money and you “should” appreciate all they do for you and not say a word because that would show that you are ungrateful, no matter how much you are hurt, bear it.

As the child grows up they have heard by society “learn to trust yourself” yet the foundation for trusting was not welcome or nurtured and from this point forward the person starts saying to themselves “I am going to trust myself starting with my body I feel like eating ice cream each day or have wine everyday because I was told it is good for you and I trust what I feel.”

Mixed Messages

As you move through the day you have mixed messages within and you ask yourself who I should trust the outside world or what I feel from within.

In many instances you may trust another person easier than yourself because your foundation was always on your parent, someone else outside yourself to trust.

This is a black and white thinking of course yet the foundation was form and it is in for each individual interest to unravel this ball of yarn, first by consciously rebuilding a foundation of keeping to your words and actions first with you and then with others with this comes trust from within.

From here you start working on respecting your limit of how much you can give to others without hurting you, by putting you first because you cannot love or ask someone else to love you when you are not doing this for yourself which is not always an easy task when you are accustom of ignoring you.

Conclusion: Trusting your inner self does not come automatic because you have a body and feelings, it is something that you build with conscious steps.

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Having a great relationship is very important to spend a good and successful life. A wonderful relationship requires trust in your partner. All of us wish to have a very good relationship with our partners. These are some tips to improve your relationship with your partner. In a relationship, romantic love plays a very important role. You should always love your partner and let him/her know that you truly love him. Listen to your partner carefully. Listening better will improve your relationship. Show your interest while he/she talking to you. Share all your thoughts with your partner. Accept your partner the way his/she is. Find points to appreciate instead of finding drawbacks of your partner. Accept his/her strengths and weaknesses as well.

Try to spend lots of time together. Go on a romantic date like a dinner or a movie once in a week. You can even go out of town with your partner on a weekend vacation. You could go out for shopping and buy things that your partner will like. Go together. Even you can spend time at home remembering your sweet memories by browsing old photo albums. Trust your partner because trust is very important for having a strong relationship. Never doubt your partner if he/she comes late at home or is busy somewhere else. Don’t be suspicious and try to avoid misunderstandings with your partner.

Help each other in ups and downs of life. Solve all the problems whether they are family problems or financial or anything else. Take decisions together and find the solution of your problems. Avoid fights and conflicts in small-small matters. Admit your mistakes and try to always apologise for your mistakes if any. Try to forgive easily. Never lie to your partner because lying can spoil any relation and it also can break your partner’s trust.

Convey whatever is in your heart and mind. Be truthful to your partner. Don’t do anything behind the back of your partner. It can be a sign of cheating your partner. Be respectful to your partner. Respect your partner and his/her feelings. You both may have different points of view but still you should listen to your partner. You also should respect each others family members, relatives and friends even if you don’t like them. Help each other in household chores. Assist in their work and encourage your partner in whatever he/she loves doing, even if you are not interested in it. Also you should appreciate his/her work. Take part in mutual hobbies. Give enough space in your relationship. Let your partner go out with his/her friends. Never interfere in his/her personal life till you can.

Give a cute nickname to your partner like sweetheart, darling, honey, etc. Give unexpected random surprises to your partner. Example, plan a candlelight dinner or movie. Or you can make dinner of his/her choice yourself at home and make your partner feel loved. You also can send love text messages on phone, emails or call once in a day from office but don’t call again and again because it can irritate your partner or he/she can get disturbed. You can put secret love notes. Remember the important dates of your partner like birthday, anniversary and occasions like valentine’s day. Exchange gifts and flowers and chocolates. You can also organize a surprise party for him/her at times. Enjoy each others company, laugh together and have fun. Talk at least sometimes with your partner if you are too busy and share everything about your whole day. Finally, be responsible to your family, your partner and his/her needs. You will have a great relationship ahead. All the best.

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Getting into a relationship is like baking. The recipes are prepared, baking instructions at hand, and the first attempt begins. However, it did not turn out exactly as what is expected out of the whole baking experience so there’s a second attempt. Recipes are carefully selected, steps to baking are learned by heart, and the second trial happens. Still, it is not as good as it can be, but surely better than the first. The third experience is easier but there’s more hesitation. It could be that the feeling of insecurity and disappointment is more prominent than the longing for the cake.

Decisions of the heart are sometimes the most difficult to make. It is nightmare for some and definitely not a bed of roses for the others but still they find ways on how to make things easier to live with. The problem with some is that they judge other people based from their past bitter experiences.

Falling in love, getting hurt then loving again is a cycle as well. People learn from past mistakes and these shortcomings are used as guidelines on how to try to perfect the next relationship. For some, recovering from a break up or marriage separation is easy, but there are some who find it hard to get by and what keeps them from moving on are the memories they carry with them.

Such memories are what others know as emotional baggage. The pieces and small bits of the past linger on. They are like packed winter clothing and personal effects taken into a trip in Hawaii, not needed but the person can’t get away without them.

But what specifically are samples of emotional baggage?

- Old pictures of being together

- Tell tale stories that is played over and over again

- Common friends

- Places that could be a reminder of the person

- Songs that make them cry

- Communication with the other person’s family

- Gifts from the other person

- Self-pity (nobody will love them again, she’s not worth it, falling in love will mean getting hurt again)

These things smash up the remaining confidence and strength of a person who has been hurt from the past relationship. Dreams have been torn apart the world stopped evolving for sometime. The hope of getting back together with the person who caused the pain is normal, but never helpful. It will not lead a love life that is longed for and not successfully attained from the previous relationship. This is the time when it is so good to remind the person that his or her world could have evolved in him or her, but remember he or she is not the whole world. There is so much to experience out there and his/hers is just a part of the most promising things that is yet to come.

Love can mean kissing different frogs along the way. Five to six month is enough to sulk over a break up. Loss of self-esteem is the alarm clock. Once this sounds, there should not be a snooze button, rather, get up and bring one’s-self together back. Start eliminating broken memories by throwing or burning pictures, gifts or anything that is a reminder of the past. Cut all communication with his or her family members in the most civil way. Because if this is continued, there can never be peace of mind. Show friends that everything is all right now. This will keep them from mentioning the past in the most awkward moments. And last but most importantly, get that confidence oozing again.

Use the past as a challenge and a stepping-stone instead of a barrier to a happier next relationship. Learn to laugh again, hey! It’s all part of growing up. Be happy for what happened as this makes a person more mature and perked up. Move on and start making plans for the future again. It may not be a totally different plan, just a new way of reorganizing the ways to keep dreams come true.

Put every emotional baggage out of the closet, out of the bag, and out life. Start picking up the pieces and be ready to meet the frogs again.

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History and mythology have both proven that there is more than an ounce of truth in the saying that behind every successful man is a woman. Heck, some of the women were even greater than their men.

Discounting the battle of the sexes, there are a lot of successful women today who are looking for men who do not always come to their aid but who would ask for their help sometimes. Men who are not always like knights in glinting raiment. In short, dumbbells in distress. And often times, to check whether a man suits a woman’s taste, she tests the man. To pass this test, here are ways on how to be a challenge to women.

There are ways to be a challenge to women. Here are dos and don’ts that a man should remember to exude that air of mystery that so hook the ladies and keep them coming back for more.

1) Let the electronic lines rest. Calling and sending a text message, instant message or e-mail too soon or too frequently would make a woman think a man has got nothing else on his mind but sex and nothing better to do than pursue women. A man should wait it out before attempting any of these things. Timing is crucial; most of the time, it is everything.

2) Be a ball of mystery. It would be to a man’s advantage to keep a woman guessing. He should not divulge information on his family, relationship history, or salary outright or willingly. Instead, these bits should be revealed only in trickles and in a gradual manner because they keep a woman interested. Tell her too soon and, without anything else to uncover, she is immediately bored and will want to move on to the next man she could unravel the secrets of.

3) Avoid the Talk. Generally, men do not like talking about their feelings. They dread any kind of confrontations that begin with “Let’s talk.” While this frustrates girls, they may also subliminally like it. Because if a man starts to share too much, he would start sounding like a girl. That is a no-no. In place of words, he should put in gestures. Like snuggling in bed after the deed. Most of the time men cannot help but fall asleep right afterward. This is forgivable to women, but only if the men make up for it by making breakfast in bed the morning after.

4) Answer her declaration with a kiss. Women hate it when they say “I love you” and they do not hear it back. A man who genuinely loves a woman does not have to keep himself from answering in the affirmative, but sometimes a kiss is a better response than “I love you, too.” This works for men who are not sure of their feelings yet. But it sure will make a woman think–or cry, fight or break up with the man. This is the perfect opportunity for a makeup kiss.

5) Show an ugly side. It is a known fact that dating is a period when one puts his/her best foot forward. For a man, though, it would not be entirely detrimental if he showed some of his imperfections. Flaws make a girl sit up and want to change her guy. This makeover project should keep her busy.

5) Come to her rescue but do not patronize her. Girls cannot do all kinds of household chores. A man would do well to act like a carpenter/plumber/cable guy who can fix everything that needs fixing in her place. But he should never, never make her feel inadequate or weaker.

6) Surprise her with your wit and skill. It is perfectly okay for men to act dumb sometimes, although never for a prolonged period. A man should assure a woman that beneath that bulk is some brains. For example, a man should not hesitate to ask for directions when they are going out of town. However, he should know how to put up a tent, build a fire, and find their way back without getting lost. Also, a man who knows some random trivia can prove intriguing and entertaining to a girl.

7) Have big dreams. Forward-thinkers are a babe magnet. Self-made men are infinitely attractive to women. A woman feels secure when she knows her man has drive and ambition because it means he could take care of her and their kids, if ever. He should share some plans, but he should keep enough to himself so she will want to stick around and discover each one for an exciting possible future together. This challenge does not only exit on the man’s part but also the woman’s; it goes both ways.

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