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This is a very difficult question to answer because it depends on the perspective of the parties involved. In other words, moms may feel a certain way about certain laws, whereas dads may feel differently about same.

Let’s take a look at Alimony for instance. Most likely, women, in general, feel that this is fair based on the fact that maybe their salary is lower than that of their ex husbands, etc…whereas men, in general, would feel that it is unfair, as the Law privileges women for no reason, and it takes the money that the men earn by working hard to give it to their ex wives.

Further, if we take a look at Child Custody, we’ll see how complicated and complex this is. Every state has a list of factors according to which Child Custody is awarded. This list is technically called “Determining Factors”. Please, consult the Determining Factors in your state for the compete list of factors. Some of the factors may vary from state to state, however, the majority of these factors will be endemic to most states.

Let’s examine some of the Child Custody factors. One of the factors is “the love and affection” that a parent has for the children. While this is nice factor to use, it is very difficult to measure such emotions, as people display their emotions and/or love differently.

Moreover, there is the biggest Flaw in the Law: whoever spent more time with the kids prior to divorce becomes the “primary care giver” of the children, and, therefore, has a greater chance of being awarded sole custody of the minor children. While this may seem fair at first glance, a more profound look divulges the fact that this is not fair to the party who worked so hard to earn money for the household. This is true irrespective of whether the parent staying home is the dad or the mom. In other words, this is unfair irrespective of the gender of the parent.

In my case, personally, I did not wish to work full time while my ex stayed home with the children. In fact, I asked my ex spouse so many times to work at least part time so that I could spend more time with our kids. I also expressed the possibility that we could alternate working. Effectively, I could work for a year while she took care of the kids, and then, I could have stayed home with the kids, while she worked.

She just refused, and the result was that she took advantage of the situation. So, here we see that the Law has a Flaw! What are your choices as a parent/husband in this case? Do you acquiesce in order to avoid a divorce, or do you try to push your wife to work so that both of you would: (A) spend an equitable amount of time with your kids, and (B) be viewed as an equal “care giver” by the court, should there be a divorce.

The sad reality is that one of the parents, whether it is the mom or the dad, may try to use the Law to his or her advantage. If the Law were more equitable, such issues would not occur as often.

During my divorce, I went to the library and read up on Family Law. I encountered a site that published statistics regarding divorce in all 50 States! it was very interesting to see that the State of Minnesota, I believe, had the highest ratio of Shared or Joint Custody, and at the same time, it had one of the lowest divorce rates in the country. The explanation is very simple: when a parent sees that there is no advantage that she or he may get from the divorce, then she or he may try to make the marriage work instead of rushing into a divorce.

In other words, if a parent realizes that she or he is going to get Sole Custody of the Minor Children, Spousal Support or Alimony, and Child Support, then that parent takes the enticing deal and divorces easily without necessarily contemplating the impact of the divorce on the children or the family as a unit. However, if none of these incentives is offered, then that parent will cogitate over a major decision such as a divorce.

The lesson here is that the Law should not give all to one parent, and virtually nothing to the other parent!

Here is how Family Law operates, which, you will see, defies any logical thinking. It really makes you wonder who wrote these Family Laws?

In essence, here is what happens when there is a divorce that involves minor children. The Law gives the Children and Child Support to one parent, and leaves the other parent with nothing!

Family Law has its preference, as to which parent should get custody of the minor children. This may not necessarily be, and in fact isn’t most of the time, the wish of the parent who does not get custody of the children. Then, to add insult to injury, the law dictates that the parent who does not get custody of the children pay the other parent child support. Here is the fallacy in the reasoning: first, the law forces that parent not to have custody of his or her children, and second, it forces her or him to pay child support to the other parent for a decision with which she or he is not agreeing.

I would, however, concur with the Law if one of the parents willingly conceded custody to the other parent. However, most of the time, this is not the case. Some of the Laws ought to be revisited, and rewritten.

When the Law metes out justice, and hence, Child Support, it does not check how the money is spent and on whom! In other words, the parent, who is awarded Child Support, may use or misuse the money in any way that she or he pleases. Now, how fair is that?

The idea behind Child Support is to ensure that the children are well taken care of, and that there is a financial balance for the kids between Dad’s house and Mom’s house. However, the Law does not make the effort to look into how the money is spent. This is deplorable, for any party might just misuse the money and spend a big part of it on him or herself!

Again, these Laws ought to be revisited. It is very sad to think that some people take advantage of the system to get as much money as they can without having to work! How fair is it to the other party who has to work, pay Child Support, and yet pay for his or her kids’ needs while under their own care?

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Diamonds. Diamond rings for brides and wedding ceremonies.

In spite of the fact that diamonds themselves are little more than crystallized carbon , carbon being one of the most common and basic components of the earth’s globe itself , why have diamond gemstones become such a standard in our society , an expression , testament and show of love and commitment itself , when after all these gemstones are simply little more than rocks from the grounds and their it might be seen , plenty of alternative gemstones and other minerals which could well provide the same function and do the same job and effort ?

Diamonds are among the hardest substances known to mankind. The origins of the word itself are from the Greek term “Adamas”, meaning unconquerable. They were formed as a result of tremendous heat and pressure, from the time of earth’s beginning, most stones being estimated at being at least a billion years old in age, by trusted and respected gemologists in the diamond and gemstone trades as well as geologists

Diamonds overall are held to be rare. Long ago diamonds were only available in one place on earth – that was what is now the country and region of India – on the Asian subcontinent. Only the most powerful of the time period, and the most wealth could afford them – the royals and royalty itself. Thus the initial impression and the prestige afforded to these gemstones. Next overall diamonds are not only valuable they are relatively rare.

To extract each carat of diamonds – a carat of diamond weight works out generally in the ranges of one hundredth and forty two of an ounce – fully in most cases fully more than one tons of soil and rock must be dug up or mined and processed. It takes a lot of earth to be moved for that bride to have that diamond ring on her precious finger. Next in line – are the sizes of the “rocks” themselves? Most diamond gemstones found and mined are tiny overall , only the smallest and tiniest percentage and percentages – perhaps one in thirty thousand are carat sized yet never mind have any of the more special and restrictive qualities so prized in diamond trades – by jewelry and gemstones professionals themselves , never mind brides , groom , their family and the wedding parties themselves.

These stats and statistics comprise on reason, and one of the reasons why diamonds are so valuable, so treasured and cost what they do in the jewelry and precious gemstones marketplace and mark places of the United Sates and the world. Another reason and reasons are the delicate, precise and special cutting process. Generally more than half of the diamond is lost when “cutters” fashion that rough stone into that beautiful gem – of great value and intrinsic beauty. First a “bruter” determines the basic shape of the stone itself. The “bruter” is he person most familiar with “rough diamonds” and the best way and ways to obtain fully maximum size and beauty in the final outcome and outcomes.

When the “bruter” is finally done his work, and completed the full process, the next gemstones professional in line a “blocker” works to “round” out the entire piece? Then the “brillianteer” will strive to add the “facets “that will give the diamond its “fire” and “brilliance”. The bruter and blocker must each and together as members of the jewelry trades professional team to get the most from the diamond gemstone while following scientifically determined proportional guidelines. The simplest least slightest of miscalculation may leave that valuable and precious diamond looking dull and simply lifeless. The brillianteer must ensure that all “facets” (58 in the traditional round brilliant cut” line up most perfectly or risk losing the fire that makes a diamond and diamonds so very special.

Each and every diamond gemstone involved in the diamond selection, cutting and polishing process is so special, most unique, one of a kind and even rarer. Each has its own special life, history and traits. Thus it is no secret that diamonds grace the hands of beautiful women around the globe, and across all cultures and families.

Amy U. Goodman
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Posted: November 6th, 2011
Categories: Marriage
Tags: beauty, diamond, diamonds, Family, jewelry, marketing, retail, wedding, woman, Women
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It’s a common notion that every flower has a meaning behind it. More than often we choose the most attractive or expensive flower to show our affection towards the receiver. Feelings can be best shown with the assistance of flower delivery St. Petersburg.

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The overall services are of superior quality with flower delivery St. Petersburg. Most of these local flower stores provide a toll free number which you can ring up to send flowers to St. Petersburg Russia, wherever the recipient is situated.

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You can send some greeting cards or chocolates to your loved one along with the flowers. That makes an even better impression. You can usually choose between various types of chocolates or cards available with the florist. You can get your name printed there and even order a customized bouquet.

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A lot of couples are resisting the traditions of how a wedding “must “be organized. Whether it is wedding day ceremony bride’s dresses, photographer’s, the florist or florist, the special matrimonial cake, or even the invitations arrangements there seem to be no end of discussion and even discord. And that is even before individual and family egos and reputations have entered into the mix and the mold. Departed are the days that veils are obligatory and garters had to be tossed. Couples know what they like and design weddings to their own tastes and options, often having to merge traditions with different practices. This personalized approach also applies to planning the outrageous “wedding budget. Many of the engaged couples pay for the wedding themselves. Traditionally the couple’s respective families give out money to cover particular expense .While every situation is different, what stays the same is that the budget defines the restricting factors and circumstance of a wedding, from venue to party menu. As a result the budget or the allocated money for the event should be determined and considered first in the wedding planning process.

Here is an evaluation of the traditional cost items for all parties involved. Keep in recollection that, the particulars are exclusive to every individual and for every situation.

Bride and Family Pay for:

-Invites, wedding programs, thank-you cards, etc, the groom’s wedding band.

-The wedding venue, organist, etc.

-The bridal gown, veil, shoes and accessories

-Flowers at the wedding venue and gathering, plus all bridesmaids’ bunch and corsages.

-All the wedding pictures and video

-All reception staples, drink, adornments and music

-Transportation of the entire bridal entourage to and from the ceremony and reception.

Groom and Family Pay for:

-the marriage license and officiating fee

-the bride’s wedding band

-the groom’s outfit

-The bride’s wedding bunch, boutonni

When it comes to wedding and wedding day banquet planning more than one bride and bridegroom have experienced the frustration of their future mother and worse yet her close circle of friends. It seems that every decision that the young couple encounters entails the refrain “Young lady / man I thought as you did …. Yet on that day I realized that all those people were there for me …… Not a day goes by when I do not fondly look back and think of my wedding day”. “It was my day in the sun”.

When it comes to the choice of colors for their wedding day with its banquet and the whole host of events color theme choice is the starting point for everything and anything. While it’s true that you cannot go far wrong with the basic choice of white for the bride and a black tuxedo for the groom, many couples in this new era of the new millennium, simply want to experiment and try something new, different and even wild. After all it’s their lives they are living, not the imagined fantasies of their mother in laws and her assorted groupies.

Bearing in mind that Feng Shui is often referred to simply as a method, art or series of methods for creating harmony the art and sciences learnt and applied from both the principles and practice of Feng Shui can be of the greatest help and assistance when it comes time for choices and planning for wedding day and banquet event color choices and plans.

Simply and fully put , harmony and fullness in Feng Shui both implies and ultimately fully means that all of the chosen colors , elements , shapes and numbers are all entirely supportive , beneficial and serve to both stand as the foundation and complement to all fortitudes involved. It’s not only a complementary set of considerations to set the stage but ultimately synergistic in nature, power and powers.

On such an important day as the uniting of a couple adding auspicious colors will help give your day – and indeed the rest of your marriage and full life a harmonious start and auspicious sendoff and full firm foundation.

Ultimately color choices can create the best of luck. A Yang color (for example pink), aside its Yin version (also pink) is always a wise considerate choice for the couple and their families. Other choices in the safe venue can be said to entail – dark blue / light blue hues and colourations , along with purple lavender, with lastly the summer nature shades of greens – any and all shades from the full spectrums of dark , to mid to the lightest of green colourations and hues and tints.

Another consideration can be to match your basic choices of pigments and pigmentation to time and year and associated holiday, celebrations and events. For example during the Christmas and New Year seasons Red and Green are always good acceptable choices. One other consideration is that in your particular geographic area of communities holiday events and timings on the calendar year may differ both for cultures, individual local areas and by calendar choice associated with individual groups or areas. An example might be a later date for Ukrainian Christmas and New Year as occurs in some areas of Manitoba. For these events – color choices such as the red and green color themes associated with the Christmas season may be employed later – or even earlier in the next calendar year time period. In terms of Feng Shui and its teachings yellow and red can be the perfect Feng Shui pairing for harmony and harmonious relationships whereas metallic colors – such a gold and silver are often associated with the future wealth, prosperity and good health of the couple and their families. Lastly the two shades of greens with blues are perfect matches together and blue ranges with the metal colors (fully not only gold and silver but in addition white and grey as well) are all well suited to each other – just as the bride and groom form the greatest pairing and obtain their greatest potentials together rather than singly and apart.

Feng Shui!

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India accommodates people belonging to many religions, caste and greed. They exist with one another as good friends and foes without discrimination or racial aversions. Still, our religious roots are so strong that we are hesitant to marry our son or daughter into another caste or religion. Only a few broad minded people look do not mind a inter caste marriage.

The main reason for this aversion is the difference in the culture or belief system. People today are well educated and they don’t limit themselves to any set boundaries or categories of people. They are broad minded and don’t look at fellow human beings as a personification of a religion or caste. Although the caste system has minimized when it comes to marriage some parents are still very hesitant. It is mainly the elders in the family who cannot digest this inter caste marriage.

New generation youngsters are very broad minded and they move along with everyone irrespective of caste or greed. It so happens that they might meet someone interesting who might not belong to the same religion. But they don’t mind this difference as much as they parents would. But times are changing and parents are realizing that their kid’s happiness is more important and try to accept this change with open mind. First it is important to realize that we are all human beings basically. Our belief in God or the spiritual system might be different but we all share the same flesh and blood.

For successful marriage both the families must forget their religious differences and try to get into a common ground where they can relate to one another as humans. They should not try to push in their own beliefs with the others and mutual respect for one another’s religion is a must. Try to sit together and finalize as to how the marriage should be conducted. To avoid misunderstanding it is best to get into a registered marriage followed by an elaborate reception. No particular religious formalities need to be followed. A general wedding unbiased by religion is a smart way to avoid unnecessary tension. Some people may prefer to perform the customs from both side and marry twice to keep both side of parents and family happy. But this brings burden of extra expenditure and it is more like wasting money and effort. Some couple prefers to go with register marriage and then throw lavish reception. This defiantly reduces the expenses and may keep everyone equally happy.

Today when we look at matrimonial columns and ads it is very encouraging to see many ads with “caste no bar”, inclusion. It reflects the transformations in the minds of people who are ready to embrace all people are equals. Habits and beliefs can be altered if only we can alter our attitude in life. Today’s changing time is defiantly helpful to bring this change about. New generation is inching towards making society liberal in real sense. Wedding are made in heaven and should we now question which religion’s heaven. Times have changed and so must our attitude towards life.

Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.