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Girls – if you’re just starting out with online dating then these tips should help you hit the ground running.

DO: Use a good quality, recent photograph

Posting a good profile picture is the most important thing you can do when starting off in online dating. Most people scan pictures before looking closer at a profile so making sure yours is a good photo of you, and not one which is blurry, unflattering or from twenty years ago will make sure your online profile is not lost among the masses in this crucial first hurdle.

DON’T: Write an autobiography

It’s sensible to assume that most people have a fairly short attention span when it comes to flicking through online dating profiles. If you want yours to be read, therefore, your profile shouldn’t come across as a long and laborious read. Instead, use bullet points or sound bites so visitors can tell they can easily get an idea of who you are.

DO: Show your unique qualities

Too many online dating profiles say all the same things, try and steer instead towards what makes you stand out from all the other dating profiles out there. Common terms to avoid include ‘fun-loving’, ‘good sense of humour’ and things like ‘I enjoy going to the cinema and eating good food’ – so does everyone else. Instead, try to shine by using a few lines of interesting or unusual facts about you which show your distinctive qualities.

DON’T: Settle for a text-only relationship

It might seem like fun at first, but a relationship based on written words alone is not usually what most women are looking for with online dating. If you find your man is hooked on messaging, texting and emailing then it’s time to get him out into the open and meet for real – otherwise it might all just be about feeding his ego. Aim to meet your online dating partners after around seven to ten days so you don’t end up wasting time and energy on unsuitable men.

DO: Hedge your bets

Try to avoid committing yourself to a single, drawn-out date with one man over a weekend and organising your life around it – it could turn out to be a bit of a disappointment. It’s better to organise a few short dates – usually it’s quite easy to tell if you might be interested within the first few minutes. There’s nothing wrong with, say, meeting one dating partner for Saturday lunch, one for drinks in the evening and a third for Sunday brunch. A first meeting shouldn’t be too serious.

DON’T: Inconvenience yourself early on

Beware of agreeing to a date all the way across town for a first meeting. On a first date it’s best to meet him somewhere near where you live or work so that it’s not a major inconvenience. Coffee dates at a nearby cafe during the day are good, because this way you can leave soon if it’s not going too well. If you think it’s not working out then you can simply say something like: ‘I don’t really think there’s a connection, but thanks so much for the coffee.’ He’ll respect your honesty and you won’t have to worry about making him feel bad, as you might do by saying no after a longer date.

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How long do you need before you can tell the person you are dating thinks you are ‘the one’? A year? A month? Just a few weeks?

According to academic journal ‘Archives of Sexual Behavior’, we should be able to tell if the person we are dating is really, really into us in less than 10 seconds, at least if that person’s a man. Because if a man looks into a woman’s eyes for over 8.2 seconds, says the journal, they are smitten.

But while it seems the longer a man looks into the eyes of the woman he’s dating, the more interested he is, the same is apparently not true of the fairer sex…

The research:

Researchers used hidden cameras to track the eye movements of 115 students while they met and spoke to actors and actresses. They then asked the students to rate how attractive they found the person they were speaking with.

The results:

The study revealed a stark difference between the men and the women who were tested.

The men in the study held a woman’s gaze for an average of 8.2 seconds if they found them beautiful, going down to just 4.5 seconds on average if they did not find them particularly attractive.

Women, however, looked at their male counterparts for the same amount of time whether or not they found them attractive.

Why the difference?

The researchers concluded that while men use eye contact to look for fit and fertile mates, women are more wary of attracting unwanted attention since they can risk unwanted pregnancy and the potential to become a single mother.

What we think:

It’s all very well trying to measure how long the person we are dating is looking at us, but other environmental factors could be at work which might lead to a big misunderstanding if we take this research too seriously when dating.

The problem with this outcome…

While a non-stop gaze might be one way to tell if the man we are dating is in love, a continuous stare for more than eight seconds can come across as a little unnerving for a woman (count it out – eight seconds is actually a really long time to look into someone’s eyes).

And what about if you’re a woman who wants to show the man you’re dating that you’re interested? Evolution seems to have removed our ability to give naturally clear signals in case we might attract the wrong type of mate.

How to give the right cues if you like someone

Body language is a really good way to show how you feel, whether you are a man or a woman. A simple touch on the arm or, if you’re a man, a touch on the lower back to lead your lady through the door, for example, speaks volumes.

Small bits of physical contact give a strong signal to your dating partner that you feel comfortable in their presence and perfectly prepared to relate to them physically – a great start for a more informal kind of relationship.

Smiling is another great way to show you enjoy the company of your dating partner and it’s easy to forget to do this if you’re concentrating too hard on making a good impression with your words – in this situation, actions really do speak louder.

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Love and dating are complex enough for people with plenty of time on their hands. But what happens if you have a demanding work or home life which leaves you little time for yourself?

Too often, the busiest people end up being the loneliest people, simply because they don’t get the opportunity to get to know people on the deeper level needed for real love and intimacy. Here are some tips for busy people to help increase their odds of finding love, despite their full schedules!

Take Part in Activities You Enjoy

The most natural approach to dating is to aim to meet people through your regular daily life. No matter how busy you are, incorporating your favourite activities into your everyday life is the perfect way to naturally meet with people who like doing the same things as you.

This might involve joining a club or group, or simply going out to do the things you like doing. It could be going to an art gallery or the library, taking part in sports like tennis or running or even just going out to the park or to the pub with friends.

If you try to do something you really enjoy once each day, you are far more likely to meet people who enjoy the same things – a big plus for someone you might start dating. And if you don’t meet anyone, you’ll still be having a great time!

Say ‘yes’ to Invitations

Busy people often feel a bit run down by the end of the day, and can get into the habit of turning down invitations which aren’t essential to their work or family duties. But you never know which party or social event might lead to meeting someone you could start dating.

Start saying ‘yes’ to all sorts of invitations and particularly embrace the events where you don’t already know everyone. This way you will have the opportunity to connect with a much wider social circle – an essential ingredient for an improved dating outlook.

Go Out When You Would Normally Stay In

There are lots of things we do at home which we could do elsewhere, and the more time we spend out in public, the more likely we are to meet new people. If you read or work on your computer at home, go to a cafe or sit outside to do these instead. You never know who you might bump into!

Try Online Dating

These days, more and more people are finding love online, and this is an ideal option for busy people. Online dating lets you stay ‘out there’ and opens up the possibilities of meeting all kinds of new people, in a very straightforward and simple way.

Online dating can make finding love a lot more likely – while your immediate circle of friends might all be coupled up, you can be sure to find hundreds of singles looking for love when you sign up for dating online. Signing up to an online dating site will improve your chances of finding dating partners who are right for you.

match.com is the UK’s best known dating site where someone meets their match every ten minutes. Start your love story at match.com.

Dating can be confusing for men. Should you focus on showing you’re a nice guy or aim to come across as and macho and strong?

Dating guides might encourage you to impress her with grand romantic gestures and unbounded admiration, but we know what women really want when dating, and it might surprise you! Here are the top four surprising traits which impress women when dating.

1. No grand gestures (just the smaller ones will do)

When we think of romance it can often conjure up images of grand gestures which will sweep a woman off her feet. While a giant bouquet of roses or an unexpected weekend in Paris are not to be sniffed at, you cannot buy a woman’s affection – it is the smaller gestures which will lead to approval.

Holding a door open for the person you are dating (in the right circumstances) shows good manners without being over the top. Try to emphasise your respect without making too much of a fuss – she will notice the little things and you will be able to keep up this behaviour over time (while too many mini-breaks could leave you bankrupt!)

2. An element of challenge

A lot of very good men fall down unnecessarily here with dating. Women love to be looked after to some extent, but don’t really need to have their every whim catered to by a man who quite obviously adores them from day one.

While treating a woman well is one thing, being an absolute pushover is never all that attractive, and this is the reason many ‘nice guys’ aren’t the ones who are the luckiest when it comes to dating. There is an element of ‘the thrill of the chase’ for both sexes, so bear this in mind and try not to put the woman you are dating on a pedestal straight away – let her impress you, too!

3. A stubborn streak

The woman you are dating might give the impression she wants you to change, but let her wrap you around her little finger and you could discover, changes made, that she’s lost interest after all. This is because most women, deep down, are a lot happier knowing their partner is a strong man who can speak up for himself.

If she does ask you to change, be very wary of doing it. That is, unless it’s a change you wanted to make anyway (like stopping smoking! That’s always a good idea). Try to stay true to yourself, while looking after her needs where you can, and she’ll respect you more for it.

4. Being unavailable

This does not equate to not calling back – that’s just rude! But a certain amount of unavailability can make for a longer lasting relationship. She might think she wants you to be around all the time but a little time apart can do wonders to keep the spark going between you.

If you aim to keep up your usual activities, such as meeting your friends and family or spending time on your hobbies, this should give enough down-time to your relationship to keep it burning hot when you’re together.

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One Attractive Quality A Man Wants Is…. “Emotional Maturity”

Most men don’t understand the feelings that women have. They don’t understand what the feelings are. And they don’t understand where they come from.

What’s the largest negative stereotype out there that men put on women… The big awful one I hear is that lots of women are “crazy”. “Man, that girl was CRAZY. Good thing I found out before I got too involved!”

It’s not nice that a man wouldn’t have more sensitivity and understanding for a woman, but it’s what often happens in reality. A man thinking of a woman as “crazy” often simply comes from a man not understanding how and why a woman is having the painful feelings she’s experiencing.

So to him, it simply looks like she’s a wreck emotionally. And therefore he thinks she’s the kind of woman he would never want to get close to for fear of her freaking out and causing him more and more “drama” in his life. What some men don’t understand about women is that the purpose and beauty of connecting with someone and having a relationship isn’t just about how much fun you can have together…

But about the amazing experience that comes from becoming deeply attached.

And when there’s a “disconnect” of some kind, and the man hasn’t allowed himself to become deeply attached emotionally, but the woman has… it’s often impossible for a man to understand what a woman is feeling. And why she’s feeling it.

The biggest mistake women make when dating is what I call the “Instant Relationship”.

This is where you feel so great about the connection you have with a man that you start talking and acting as though you and he are in a committed relationship.

Even though you’re still just “dating” in his mind. When a woman starts talking about “how great their relationship will be”…

Or makes too many future plans with a man…

Or starts DEMANDING his time and attention in a way that only a woman who felt entitled to him would…

Or gets upset when a man acts in a way that shows they aren’t in a relationship, even though she’s acting like it… It’s a HUGE TURN OFF to a man.

To him, it looks like that lame guy word- “Crazy.” To the woman, she can’t understand how he can be so uncaring and insensitive. What’s important, if you want to find an amazing partner and start a great relationship… is to learn to LOVE more CONSCIOUSLY. (Even if you are just dating)

Loving more consciously means allowing yourself to become emotionally attached and share your feelings openly – even if it feels uncomfortable or painful because you don’t get exactly what you want. When you’re focused NOT on how to get the relationship or the pay-off you want when you’re dating, but on how to be open to loving and NO MATTER WHAT comes your way… this is allows you to be free to whatever is.

A woman who has this attitude is not only extremely fun and attractive to a man… But she’s also able to really roll with the punches and keep herself emotionally grounded and centered in a positive way no matter what happens.

When a man recognizes that a woman is both loving AND that she keeps her composure and can handle herself in a loving way even if she feels hurt or upset… there’s almost nothing that says “Girlfriend Material” than a woman like this.

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She gave you her phone number and even smiled at you when she did so. You called her and she agreed to see you on Friday night. You have her address and are picking her up at 7p.m. Now what?

I always like to start out a date with a drink. It just loosens both people up a little and is a good jumping off point for the rest of your date. I would take her to your favorite cafe or bar for a drink and maybe an appetizer while you get to know her a little better.

During this time, I would focus on finding a little bit about her and introducing a small bit of sexual tension into the air. You don’t want to end the night as her new bff. You want to express some interest in a nonthreatening way. Maybe you can lightly touch her arm, hold her hand, brush her hair out of her eyes, something that implies you do view her as a sexual woman.

I might talk about something interesting that I do, planting a seed for something that might later lead us back to my apartment. For instance, I might talk about music from the 70s and my awesome collection of vinyl records, including a rare Led Zeppelin record. Later, if the moment is right, I can offer to bring her back to my place for a drink to listen to the record and who knows where it might go from there.

But back to that first drink — Once you feel that things have loosened up a bit, you can decide where to go next. It could be for a walk – always a favorite thing of mine to do on a first date, it can be a restaurant, a sporting event, whatever. I would have at least two fun things in mind. If you are uncertain, you can say you were thinking about taking her to see a baseball game or out for sushi and see what she says in response.

But I prefer to just tell her what you have planned for her, without giving her a choice. It’s not that I don’t care what a woman wants to do; it is that I believe in taking the lead on a date that I initiated.

Also, if you are passionate about baseball and want to go to the game that night, it might be good to clear the air right away and find out she hates baseball. In the long run, this might not matter, but it will be good to know.

After you go to whatever second event or place you have determined, it might be the time, if you are connecting and the chemistry is there, to suggest you go back to your place for a drink and a look at your record collection.

If she declines, but the date otherwise went swimmingly, no worries. You can just tell her you hope to be able to show her your place at another time. If she is undecided be sure to tell her that you have no expectations except having a drink and listening to music and you won’t misinterpret her visit as anything else.

You have to mean this as well. You can’t just say it.

But, if she does want to go back to your place, still don’t have any expectations and go with the flow. Enjoy yourself, have a good time and respect her wishes. You never know, you may have just had the first date with your future wife.

Bill has been studying how to pick up women for the last 5 years as a guest instructor at the top pick up artist boot camp in NYC. The original article can be found here: First Date Help.

I would guess that a small portion of guys out there who want to meet women have no desire to ever settle down. Not now, not in the future. For these men, a lifetime as a bachelor, sleeping around with hundreds, if not thousands of women, would not be long enough. These men plan on attempting to maintain this lifestyle even when they are old enough for a nursing home.

But, I don’t think I am going out on a limb here when I say that I believe most men do want to have fun and date different women and maybe even sleep around, but ultimately at the end of the day, want to meet the girl of their dreams.

This may be another 10 years down the road for some. For others, it might be their top priority right now.

Regardless, when you do date multiple women you are always getting closer and closer to finding your future wife. There are a couple of things going on here. The first is that ever relationship you have has something to teach you. It could be showing you a good way to resolve an argument. It could be showing you the characteristics you suddenly realized you don’t want in a long-term partner.

Each and every woman you date has something to teach you, if you realize it or not. It is all about improving yourself as a person. These lessons will help you to grow as a person so that when you do meet your princess, you will be her dream guy, not another frog she has to kiss to find her prince.

When you are studying how to pick up women, you are also educating yourself in how to be the best man you can be. To be a truly good pick up artist, you need to really, genuinely have good self esteem. Sometimes the journey there involves a lot of change. You may have to change your eating habits, your exercise habits, even how you spend your free time in order to be the best man you can be.

There is something to be said about timing and meeting the right woman at the right time. There is no time like the present to begin. Even if you don’t plan to marry for another decade, think about what an awesome partner you will be for your wife after that many years learning the ins and outs of relationships.

Wouldn’t you hate to meet your dream woman when you don’t feel worthy of such a woman and are stuck in childish behaviors when dealing with conflict or other relationship issues. The time to start getting ready for Mrs. Wonderful is right now. There is no time to waste. You need to figure out what it will take to be worthy of your dream girl and then start working toward it.

Because someday, even the most prolific pick up artist is going to want to settle on the couch with his queen and stay in for the night.

Bill has been studying the art of being a pick up artist for the last 5 years and has been sharing advice as a guest instructor at the top Pickup Artist boot camp in NYC.

Bill has been studying being an alpha male for the last 5 years as a guest instructor at the top boot camp in NYC. The original article can be found here: Finding Your Queen. More pua articles can be found at puaforums.com.

Hello Ladies…. are you single and wondering why it seems so easy to find any man to go out with you for a date or two… But IMPOSSIBLE to find a man to connect with on a deeper level for something more lasting and meaningful?

You may have found that once that initial infatuation shifts into something more “real”, men often shut down and withdraw back to their lonely isolated lives.

Why is it that even smart men think that they’d be better off ALONE and ISOLATED,

than if they shared their life and love with a wonderful woman?

Don’t keep meeting men and sharing yourself with them, only to have things fizzle out when it’s not so “new” anymore.

There’s one thing that women accidentally do when they’re in that casual dating stage that triggers this WITHDRAWAL RESPONSE inside of a man.

Of course, it’s up to a man to keep himself from withdrawing… but if you don’t want to keep running the risk of triggering this, then it’s best to avoid this issue altogether.

If you’re tired of going on more “dates”, only to be less satisfied with your love life, and you’d like to know how to ATTRACT the right man for a great relationship from the very beginning… then I’d like to show you:

Are you having an easy time creating the kind of CONNECTION with a man that turns a few typical “dates” into the beginning of an amazing relationship? Or…

Are you finding it more difficult to find a great man and go from him just feeling “casual” about dating you, to WANTING and NEEDING YOU on both a physical and emotional level?

If so, then I’m going to tell you something that is crucial in winning the right man’s heart. This is one thing that men don’t talk about but ‘DRIVE THEM WILD’ when they recognize it and experience with in you. If you learn this and put it to use in your love life, the right man is sure to see you as that unique and special woman he just has to have in his life forever.

There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” and bonding with a woman faster than talk about feelings and experiences.

And that something is “PLAY”. See… men love to be active and to play.

Men were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through ACTION. Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to TALK TALK TALK their way into a man’s heart.

The strange reality is that as you’re getting to know a man… MORE TALK will often get you LESS RESPONSE from a man on an emotional level. Sure, talking is great to get the facts, and for you to share some things such as your VALUES, and what you do or don’t want in a relationship.

But the fact is that men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you SAY. (Just like you don’t meet a man and feel it for him because he has a great “pick-up line”!)

It’s not the words… it’s the experience.

And for men, the easiest and most straight forward way for a man to engage in his emotions with you is by DOING THINGS with him that DON’T require talking, but allow you to be PLAYFUL with him.

A couple of examples of PLAYFUL activity you can do with a man that are sure to dial up the emotional

intensity…

-Sports: Not all men love sports or are great at them, and you might not like them either, but that’s not the point. The point here is to play a sport with a man because it involves aspects of a “game”. You

against him competing.

Any sport will do. Ping pong is an easy favorite because no one is really “good”… and you can have all kinds of playful banter hitting the ball back and forth. Pool is another good one since it’s easy to find when you’re out together, plus you can tease him by placing your gorgeous self in front of where he’s aiming and distract him so he misses his shot.

Then, when you’re shooting, ask him to come over and help you so he puts his arms around you. Nice!

What man wouldn’t love that invitation. Then if you miss, blame it on him in a fun sarcastic way.

Bottom line, if a man is being active and engaging in a playful game with you while there is also some kind of TOUCHING involved… it’s a magic combination that’s sure to raise the ATTRACTION level up several notches. And teasing is a universal way of bonding and communicating that is like an unspoken language that all men speak.

Teasing is easier than you might think. The one catch is to do it all with a sense of humor and fun… and don’t get too serious. The best way to tease a man playfully is to be SARCASTIC with him. This kind of thing is subtle, but builds a growing level of ATTRACTION inside a man for you. Some women feel uncomfortable with teasing or making fun of a man. But for men, it’s again another way they connect socially.

Try it. You’ll love how a man responds!

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Many people prefer to speak over the phone before meeting their online dating partner in the flesh, and it is often used as an intermediate stage between dating online and meeting in person.

Speaking to potential dating partners over the phone can save a lot of time – you are less likely to go on dates with inappropriate people if you have had a proper chat first. It can also make the first date a lot less nerve-wracking if you have already made a good impression over the phone.

If you are dating online and would like to move a relationship forward from email messaging to chatting over the phone, here are some simple tips about how to get the most out of this stage in the dating process.

Aim to find out if you would like to meet in person

When taking the step of phoning an online dating partner, use this as an opportunity to find out if you would like to meet up with them face to face. While you will have found out a number of facts about and insights into your online dating partner from their profile and messages, it’s sometimes a lot easier to tell if you will really get on with someone once you start speaking to them, so you should use the conversation to help you decide out if you are drawn to their personality.

Be prepared – print out their profile

While you might think you have got to know the person through dating online, it can sometimes be difficult to keep a phone conversation going if you are unprepared. When chatting online, you have a chance to pause and think, while on the phone you will have to keep going. It can also be a bit confusing if you are chatting to more than one person, and being confused with somebody else will not go down well with your dating partner. Print out their online dating profile and refer to it for ideas if you get stuck.

Keep a balance between questions and answers

Try to make sure you both have a chance to talk about yourselves by asking questions and offering up information about yourself in equal measures. People like to talk about themselves but you don’t want this to come across as an interview as that will put the person you are dating on edge.

Talk for about half an hour

If you are both enjoying the conversation, about thirty minutes should be enough time to get to know them enough to tell if you would like to meet in person. After this time it is ok to say you have to go without giving a reason why and, if there is a very good rapport, one of you could organise a proper date before you say goodbye.

Don’t agree to anything you’re not happy with

If you realise during the conversation that you don’t want to go out with your online dating partner after all, don’t say ‘yes’ to a date just out of politeness – this will probably end up being be a waste of time for both parties. Either don’t organise a date or, if they ask to meet up, simply explain you have really enjoyed the conversation but don’t feel you are a good match.

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While it’s easy to tell if you like the look of your dating partner, how can you tell if they’re right for you in other ways, such as personality, values and goals?

In a recent interview, Michelle Obama urged women not to judge their dating partners purely by the way they look. ‘Cute is good’, she said. ‘But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, who are you as a person?’

Here are the top 6 things you need to look out for when dating a man, so you can tell if they might be right for you in the long term.

Is there chemistry between you?

Sometimes you can tell straight away if the two of you might work well as a couple, because for some people the chemistry just sizzles from the first moment. However, if this does not happen straight away, it doesn’t mean it never will. Getting to know someone better can lead to passion and, in some cases, it is these bonds which turn out to be the strongest. However, if you are physically or emotionally turned off by the person you are dating, it’s more likely that chemistry will never happen.

Can you see yourself feeling love and affection for this person?

As Mrs Obama says, ‘Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul’. No matter how good your dating partner is on paper, if you can’t feel genuine affection and love for the man himself, your relationship will never feel complete. Try and see beyond the job title to the person inside.

Can you communicate?

Dating a man who leaves you guessing may seem fun in the short term, for a long-term relationship it’s important to know you can communicate your thoughts and feelings in an open and honest way. A man who cannot communicate anything meaningful about himself could make for a very frustrating partner!

Do you share values?

This doesn’t have to mean that you both vote for the same political party, or even that you are of the same religion. In most cases, it is the thousands of day-to-day choices people must make which will have the most impact on whether a relationship survives or fails. If you and the person you are dating can agree on the basics, that’s a great start.

Do you have common goals?

While this point may not be for a first date, it is important to get an idea over time for whether or not you share long-term goals with your dating partner, such as if you would like to get married, have children or simply would like to enjoy a carefree life of fun and travel. Get too far down the line without figuring these things out and you could be in for a nasty surprise.

Do you feel happier with him around?

The last thing Michelle Obama pointed out is that, for a relationship to work, you have to feel genuinely happy and at peace when you are with the man you are dating, and that he treats you with courtesy and respect at all times. ‘When you’re dating a man,’ she said, ‘you should always feel good. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole.’

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