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One thing that is really weird is that many single men spent more time fantasizing that they have a bevy of beautiful girlfriends rather than actually going out and start meeting the girls. I mean, if you are not positively out there doing anything to meet women, then how can you attract one, not to say the many you wish to meet?

So start going out more often as it is quite impossible to have any kind of a dating life if you stay at home most of the time crunching on some snacks in front of your TV screen. Look, your potential girlfriend is not going to walk out from your TV google box no matter how often and how hard you stare at it.

So, can you set aside at least one or two days per week to go to places where women hang out such as the library, book stores, shopping malls and even dance clubs? That isn’t too much to ask for, is it?

Next, you can learn a hobby which can give you the environment to meet more women. Something which you have an interest in as well as a hobby that many women will be interested in such as learning dancing, cooking classes, yoga lessons or even join your local gym to build a more attractively fit body.

My personal preference will be taking dancing lessons because there will be some touching involved and many other interactions with the girls such as discussing the dance moves. If you can find a hobby class where women outnumber men, then your chances of successfully meeting and dating the girls with skyrocket phenomenally.

Of course, before you go out and hit on the girls, you will have to improve on your look. Even if you are already good looking chap, why not make it better and be an even more handsome man? There are always something to improve on your appearance if you want to impress women. How about getting a new haircut to look neater, some new clothes to be more fashionable or an exercise regimen to look more handsome and attractive?

Do you know you can meet and make friends with women anytime of the day? This is because since you will leaving your house everyday, why don’t you start having casual conversations with any women while you are buying groceries, going for a walk in the park or strolling in your local shopping mall?

Your conversations don’t have to be long and well thought out. Just say a few words of greetings to see how things can proceed from there. Just make it a point to say “hi” to any women you meet in the course of the day and if she sends out a friendly response, you can then react and take it to another level with her.

Another good way of meeting and dating women is through dating sites or social networking sites such as facebook. Set up a good detailed profile of yourself and you do need a good picture of yourself to have any response. Then start sending messages out to women by asking them a question about themselves in a friendly way and wants to know them better. The questions should be something you noticed about her in her profile, so there can be a higher chance for the girls you have contacted to respond to your messages.

You should enjoy meeting women and it should be fun and you should not feel pressurized. If you feel pressured and is nervous, the girls will know and that is not cool!

So what are you waiting for. Logout of your computer right now and start going out to attract, meet and date beautiful girls!

Chris Chew is a fitness, health and relationship consultant. Read his free articles at How To Attract Seduce And Flirt and How To Become More Handsome And Good Looking

You think she is the girl of your dreams and at first she looks at you like you are her prince, but by the end of the date, she never wants to see you again.

Was it something you did/said/wore? Yes, yes, yes, say the authors of a new book: “Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do That Guarantee They Won’t Be Dating or Having Sex.”

According to authors Anne Coyle and Ellen Rakieten, there are hundreds of turn offs that guys probably don’t even realize they are doing.

One example the authors give is a man walking in and his date sees that he sports hair plugs. The woman tells herself she can move past that.

But then, the man opens his mouth and uses endless sports metaphors. He also wears (horror) pleated front pants, has a cell phone clipped to his belt and drinks Long Island Iced Teas. But then comes the coup de grace — he gets up and tells the woman that he has to go take a “dump.”

This is the perfect example of an undateable guy, say Coyle and Rakieten.

“We interviewed hundreds of smart, funny, normal women from all walks of life and asked them for their lists of Undateables, the things that turned a guy from a MAYBE into a NO WAY,” wrote Coyle and Rakieten. “Some answers were more obvious (readjusting the “family jewels” over drinks), while others were randomly brilliant (owning a cat), and some we never saw coming (using the phrase “my lover”).

“This is stuff that guys don’t know because nobody tells them,” Rakieten said on Good Morning America in March.

On Good Morning America, the authors went looking for offenders at the ESPN Zone in Times Square.

They found a guy wearing a baseball cap backward – big no-no. Is having messy hair better? He asked the authors and they both replied, “YES!”

The second guy took off his Nike sweatshirt and the women groaned. He had on a bright red tee shirt with a giant MnM character face on it.

“You’re adorable, and really, truly is this what you want to say to the world?” they said. “I’m an MnM?”

The women asked the third guy if he wore a blue tooth on his ear like that all the time.

“Every day,” he answered and got a big thumb down.

Then the women found two guys they said knew how to do it right: they had FLAT FRONT pants on and nice shoes.

“So what’s the lesson learned?” asked the Good Morning America host. “Every frog can become a prince if they just have a little help.”

So what are some other Undateable things to avoid?

 A man should never go shirtless unless he’s at the beach, in the shower or in bed.

 A man’s underwear or boxers should never hang out of his pants

 DO NOT, under any circumstances, wear that combination of too short jeans and too long shorts called Jorts.

 NEVER wear white socks without athletic sneakers and NEVER wear socks with sandals.

Bill has been studying How to Pick Up Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Don’t Be Undateable.

Have you though about what is stopping you from approaching women?

I would hazard a guess that one reason men hesitate in approaching women is that they have a deep down fear of rejection.

We all want to be accepted and liked and popular, but the world doesn’t work that way.

If the one thing that is stopping you from going up to that gorgeous woman and talking to her is your fear that she will reject you, then there is only one thing to do:

Expect rejection.

I want you to expect that when you go up to that woman she probably is not going to give you her phone number. And that is OK.

What you need to do is change your goal. If you change the game plan so that the goal is not to get a woman’s phone number, you area already ahead of the game.

Here is what your new goal will be: Your new goal is to successfully go up and have a conversation with a woman. Period. Nothing else. It can only be for five minutes. It can last for 2 hours. The goal is to go talk to a woman and that is it.

You can succeed at this goal. I know you can. It is not about getting a phone number. It is about having a conversation.

The main point I am trying to make is one that all of us need to learn at some point or other in our lives – we have no control over other people or how they react to what we say or do. The only control we have is over ourselves. We can only control what we say and do. If someone, say a woman, chooses to respond to us in a way we like, then that is great. But if a woman chooses to respond in a way we don’t like, well, guess what? That is fine, as well.

The key to successfully approaching a woman is to not make a big deal about it. After all, your goal is to talk to a woman for a few minutes or however long. It is not about meeting you future wife (though that may be a result) or about getting a date for Saturday night (again, that may happen), but the goal is to simply talk to a woman for a few minutes.

If you truly believe this and make this your goal, you will automatically give off an attitude of confidence and nonchalance. You will seem like the kind of guy who goes up and talks to women just for the heck of it, because guess what? You do.

This will actually be more appealing than you can imagine to a woman. Women are used to men approaching them wanting something 100 percent of the time. If you just approach her, have a conversation and leave, she will be intrigued.

I’m not saying that if you see her continue looking at you that you shouldn’t go back and get her number of maybe you’ll see her again at another time. The point is you have accomplished your goal and became a man of intrigue at the same time.

Bill has been studying How to Approach Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: What Stops You From Approaching Women?.

When I was fourteen, my family was new in town and I started attending a church youth group absolutely stocked with beautiful, beautiful girls to my fourteen year old eyes. When interacting with them, the one constant theme was, “I don’t know what to do.” So I either did nothing or did something reasonably stupid. This pattern continued with little development well into my college years. That’s it. I just didn’t know what to do. I was afraid, but I was afraid primarily because I didn’t know what to do. I desperately wanted many girls over the years to be interested in me. I was a “serial crusher”, one girl or another would grab my interest, and I usually knew her socially, but I just didn’t know what to do. I was eighteen before it really even occurred to me that I could just ask a girl out.

It’s a painful feeling, not knowing what to do. You want something, and you know you want it but see absolutely no way of getting it. Of course, it was more complex, many factors associated with just general awkwardness and maturity were there, but I didn’t seem to be “growing out of it”. A “phase” doesn’t last for years. When I discovered my first “How to Talk to Women” book, it was amazing. Now I did know what to do. A funny thing happened, it worked. At least for a while, and then the next book worked for a while, and the next. Now at this point I could give some trite line like, “I learned to just be myself, and they worked because I believed in myself,” or some other useless drivel, but I won’t. What all of these books gave me was something that was true, even if not completely true, because it did work. They did help me because “I believed in myself,” but more importantly they helped me see a self I could believe in. They all helped me know what to do.

What to do is this. ACTE: Assess the Situation, Create a Simple Plan, Take Action, and Evaluate. I didn’t invent this and have to give credit to an ex-Navy SEAL author named Richard Machowicz, although he didn’t invent this either, but I heard it first from him. I think its powerful because, whether I called it this at the time or not, it was the process I was following. What the books and experience of others helped give me was an understanding of their ACTE processes and what worked and what didn’t. What the Christian authors I was also reading helped give me was a greater understanding about the nature of men and women in general in a way that provided real standards to shoot for and why. If you follow this plan, it will get you closer to your goal. It will require some discipline to stick to it, but as long as you’re not always willfully weak ignorant or malicious, you will not only get closer to some far off hazy goal, but actually feel better before, during, and after your contacts with women.

Assessing the Situation is basically opening your eyes up to what’s going on, noticing your surroundings, your current mood, and the mood of the girl you have in mind, indicated by her body language and a kind of animal sense we all possess in noticing how others around us are feeling. You also have a clear goal in your mind, ultimately its marriage, but you have to meet her and date her first (or court if you prefer the term). Creating a simple plan and taking action means do the best you know at the time. You know doing nothing won’t work, so just take a second to think and then do what seems best. As long as its not overtly immoral, just do it.

Evaluate is a little more tricky and is the absolute crux, its where most people fall short and wind up failing. It means taking an honest look at what happened afterwards whether it went successfully or not. For example, there was a time when I thought I was being successful because I got a ton of numbers, but since these numbers ended up not panning out, I was missing the fact that, even though she gave me her number, she didn’t seem that excited about the prospect at the time. Also, even if you did everything right based on your experience and the experiences of others but it didn’t work with a particular girl, you know that what you had was not necessarily a bad plan. Evaluate. See the good and bad and make a note. So the next time you Create a Simple Plan, it will be based on a clearer view of Assessing the Situation and figuring out your options.

Over time, your knowledge of what works and what doesn’t will get clearer and more readily accessible. Just exercising your faculties of judgement and courage will have a great masculinizing effect and make you feel better about the whole process. If you ACTE, you will always know what to do.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

Since the beginning of time, in nearly every romance story, the hero gets the girl. The only problem is, I haven’t seen many dragons lately, unless you count the alligators in the bayou near my house, and honestly they’re not bothering anyone as a general rule. We all know courage is intimately bound up with winning a woman’s heart, but the problem is either we don’t know exactly how to be courageous, or the idea we have of courage is something that can’t be practically demonstrated in front of a girl unless you’re someone like a firefighter. And even in that case, there has to be a fire going on right then.

The truth is, courage is simpler than you think. Once you grasp its true nature, you will see that not only do opportunities for courage abound, but that it has been an intimate part of your life for a long time. Courage has the word couer as its root, the French word for heart. We all have times where we do something “heartily”, where you really throw yourself into something. Whether its playing sports or playing video games, we have all habitually done some things heartily.

If you call to mind what it’s like and observe it; it’s a time where the transition between noticing something (the placement of the ball or hearing approaching zombies) and acting on it is smooth and fast. Your actions may not always pay off, but as long as you’re really into what you’re doing they pay off more often than not. And when you’re playing really well, you know intuitively when to think and when to act so that you don’t just rush around to no benefit, and you don’t miss opportunities while you’re standing and thinking. The exact same thing happens when dealing with women. When you hold back, when you don’t let your spirit rise up and forward, she senses this, if even only on an animal level. But when you are not holding back, she notices this too. And if you’re not even afraid where most other guys are, she notices that too.

The process is this: knowledge always comes first, then judgement, and then action. Knowledge, in some ways can’t really be stopped. Your mind is powerful and is sensing gigantic amounts of information even when you’re not consciously choosing to think about it. Judgement is when you decide what to focus on. Good judgement means respecting knowledge, and where you go wrong is bad judgement, when you ignore what you know. Action is the follow up.

Here is how bad judgement usually happens: You know you want to get married eventually. You know a certain girl interests you. And you know that being passive doesn’t work. Bad judgement usually happens when you start ignoring these things. Good judgement dictates that you take action because nothing will ever really happen with a woman unless you take action. Then, you observe the result of your action. Either the girl wasn’t interested, in which case you should probably stop doing that and try something else. Or she was interested, in which case you can file that away as a nugget that will probably work again in the future.

But typically, we don’t follow our judgement and get solid real-world experience. We want to wait until we have a real feeling of certainty that she is interested. From my own experience, if that feeling ever arrives, it turns out to be false. Instead of simply acting and seeing the result, we wait and wait, anticipating that a positive result will come on its own without having to put ourselves on the line at all. This is the very opposite of courage.

This is why courage is a virtue. It is a muscle and exercising it becomes easier, but it always takes a little push at the start before your feelings line up with taking action. Just like on a rollercoaster, you never really feel like starting out until you have already gone over the first hill. Courage not only moves you toward your goal, but it also provides the benefit of making you feel stronger and better whenever you exercise it; however, all the benefits only come after you do it.

Michael Dyer teaches Christian men about dating and relationships. He writes regularly on Christian dating advice at www.AquinasOnDating.com.

Relationships should be a place for growth and comfort for both of those involved in it. If you feel in any way restricted and held back because of your partner, you need to take action to resolve the problem. Regardless of whether your relationship is 2 months or 10 years old, sometimes you suddenly realize “This is not working out”. Maybe you’ve realized that the relationship is unhealthy, or maybe you just feel like moving on. You should never feel like you’re stuck in a relationship, staying simply for your partner’s benefit.

This is unfair to both you and your partner, who needs to find someone who truly wants to be with her. Obviously, it’s your obligation to let your partner know about your feelings, as keeping your feelings to yourself will only cause more pain for both of you in the long run. Still, sometimes it’s not so simple. If you partner is needy and clingy, telling them that the relationship is over is a conversation that you’ll find any excuse to avoid. As a result, hundreds of thousands of guys find themselves stuck in unhappy relationships – but you don’t have to let that guy be you! Instead of allowing the relationship to go on forever, you need to start sowing the seeds that will enable the break up to happen. Although it may seem hard, the only obstacles are the ones which you create for yourself.

Firstly, you have to decide with certainty that it really is the end. You must be 100% sure, so take some time for yourself just prior to the break-up. This will help you gain confidence in your decision, as you will be able to have your ‘case’, and answers to her questions, ready. At this time, you can summon up some of the power it’s going to take to follow through. After a week or two, tell her straight that you’ve made up your mind that you need to leave this relationship. If you think that she will go berserk, you may need to do this over the phone or in writing (a letter or email). Yes, that’s right – a letter or email may be the most appropriate way to do this. Despite what you may have otherwise heard, it’s not essential to break up in person. By doing so, you will inevitably delay doing so, as no moment will seem ‘right’ for doing it.

Let her know that you know for certain that it’s time to move. Tell her that the magic and spark of the relationship is no longer there, and your feelings are more than just a passing phase, and that you have no future together. Be direct and honest, but don’t be cold and heartless. Don’t feel that you have to explain yourself and answer all of all her questions – sometimes the answer is simple, “Sorry, I don’t know why I feel this way, but I do”. Take steps to separate ASAP. If she wants to be stubborn and childish, you may have to tell her that you no longer wish to discuss the decision, otherwise you may be talking about it forever. Don’t propose that you two will be friends, as that isn’t something that she’ll want to hear. Maybe you can still be friends, but if that is to be so, then let it happen naturally, which may take some months.

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Having a great relationship is very important to spend a good and successful life. A wonderful relationship requires trust in your partner. All of us wish to have a very good relationship with our partners. These are some tips to improve your relationship with your partner. In a relationship, romantic love plays a very important role. You should always love your partner and let him/her know that you truly love him. Listen to your partner carefully. Listening better will improve your relationship. Show your interest while he/she talking to you. Share all your thoughts with your partner. Accept your partner the way his/she is. Find points to appreciate instead of finding drawbacks of your partner. Accept his/her strengths and weaknesses as well.

Try to spend lots of time together. Go on a romantic date like a dinner or a movie once in a week. You can even go out of town with your partner on a weekend vacation. You could go out for shopping and buy things that your partner will like. Go together. Even you can spend time at home remembering your sweet memories by browsing old photo albums. Trust your partner because trust is very important for having a strong relationship. Never doubt your partner if he/she comes late at home or is busy somewhere else. Don’t be suspicious and try to avoid misunderstandings with your partner.

Help each other in ups and downs of life. Solve all the problems whether they are family problems or financial or anything else. Take decisions together and find the solution of your problems. Avoid fights and conflicts in small-small matters. Admit your mistakes and try to always apologise for your mistakes if any. Try to forgive easily. Never lie to your partner because lying can spoil any relation and it also can break your partner’s trust.

Convey whatever is in your heart and mind. Be truthful to your partner. Don’t do anything behind the back of your partner. It can be a sign of cheating your partner. Be respectful to your partner. Respect your partner and his/her feelings. You both may have different points of view but still you should listen to your partner. You also should respect each others family members, relatives and friends even if you don’t like them. Help each other in household chores. Assist in their work and encourage your partner in whatever he/she loves doing, even if you are not interested in it. Also you should appreciate his/her work. Take part in mutual hobbies. Give enough space in your relationship. Let your partner go out with his/her friends. Never interfere in his/her personal life till you can.

Give a cute nickname to your partner like sweetheart, darling, honey, etc. Give unexpected random surprises to your partner. Example, plan a candlelight dinner or movie. Or you can make dinner of his/her choice yourself at home and make your partner feel loved. You also can send love text messages on phone, emails or call once in a day from office but don’t call again and again because it can irritate your partner or he/she can get disturbed. You can put secret love notes. Remember the important dates of your partner like birthday, anniversary and occasions like valentine’s day. Exchange gifts and flowers and chocolates. You can also organize a surprise party for him/her at times. Enjoy each others company, laugh together and have fun. Talk at least sometimes with your partner if you are too busy and share everything about your whole day. Finally, be responsible to your family, your partner and his/her needs. You will have a great relationship ahead. All the best.

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If only getting over a serious boyfriend had the same support system that quitting smoking does, I think things would be a lot easier for women. Can you imagine how great life would be if there was a patch you could stick on your arm to make you forget about your ex-boyfriend in your time of weakness and your moments of need. Until science catches up with our needs were just going to have to tough it out and quit cold turkey.

We all know that breaking up with your boyfriend is a hard thing to do and if he is the one that breaks up with you, it’s even harder. But what is often overlooked is that the breakup and actually getting over the person are two totally different things. And in most cases getting over him is a lot harder than breaking up with him. It is often said that it takes the same amount of time to get over your boyfriend as you spent in the relationship with him, I don’t disagree with this analysis but I think there are things that you can do to help you get over your boyfriend more quickly and with less drama.

Below are some simple tips that you should keep in mind when trying to get over your boyfriend after your relationship has ended.

Getting over your boyfriend tip number one. The best way to get over a boy, is to get under the next one. No I’m not saying become a slut but women are emotionally connected to the man they are sleeping with or the man they slept with last. No matter how much of a jerk he was there are still hormones raging in your body that are telling you to reconnect with him because he’s the last man you are intimate with. If he wasn’t a jerk at all, your hormones are that much stronger. One of the best things for you to do in the process of getting over him is to have a fling with a new guy. This will help you clear your head and cleanse your palate so to speak.

Getting over your boyfriend tip number two. No booty calls or post-breakup hookups whatsoever. I don’t care how many cosmos you had at the bar or how desperate you feel don’t call him or answer his calls and whatever you, don’t sleep with him. Having post-breakup sex is only going to make that torture worse. You need to make a clean break emotionally and physically. He needs to be 100% out of your life to make room for your next wonderful relationship waiting in the wings.

Getting over your boyfriend tip number three. Let’s not be friends. Similar to the point above about sleeping with him you need to remember that they are your ex and it is time to move on. As harsh as this sounds, do not remain friends with him, it’s only going to mess things up for you. No meeting for coffee, no having lunch to see how things are going, I don’t care what the reason is being friends with your ex-boyfriend is nothing but trouble and will make it nearly impossible to get over him.

Getting over your boyfriend tip number four. Try getting yourself. You were nice to him, you gave him love, attention, your time and your energy. Now that you are broken up with him an easy way to help get over your boyfriend is to devote that same energy, time, love and attention to yourself. Start a new diet, get the gym, go shopping for new outfit, get your hair done, now is the time to love yourself and get the new you ready for the next man in your life. Do not, I repeat, do not sit around the house eating cheeseburger happy meal’s crying over the fact that he is gone. Now is the time to love yourself so get out there, look hot, have fun and a new boy will be in your life before you know it.

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Girls – if you’re just starting out with online dating then these tips should help you hit the ground running.

DO: Use a good quality, recent photograph

Posting a good profile picture is the most important thing you can do when starting off in online dating. Most people scan pictures before looking closer at a profile so making sure yours is a good photo of you, and not one which is blurry, unflattering or from twenty years ago will make sure your online profile is not lost among the masses in this crucial first hurdle.

DON’T: Write an autobiography

It’s sensible to assume that most people have a fairly short attention span when it comes to flicking through online dating profiles. If you want yours to be read, therefore, your profile shouldn’t come across as a long and laborious read. Instead, use bullet points or sound bites so visitors can tell they can easily get an idea of who you are.

DO: Show your unique qualities

Too many online dating profiles say all the same things, try and steer instead towards what makes you stand out from all the other dating profiles out there. Common terms to avoid include ‘fun-loving’, ‘good sense of humour’ and things like ‘I enjoy going to the cinema and eating good food’ – so does everyone else. Instead, try to shine by using a few lines of interesting or unusual facts about you which show your distinctive qualities.

DON’T: Settle for a text-only relationship

It might seem like fun at first, but a relationship based on written words alone is not usually what most women are looking for with online dating. If you find your man is hooked on messaging, texting and emailing then it’s time to get him out into the open and meet for real – otherwise it might all just be about feeding his ego. Aim to meet your online dating partners after around seven to ten days so you don’t end up wasting time and energy on unsuitable men.

DO: Hedge your bets

Try to avoid committing yourself to a single, drawn-out date with one man over a weekend and organising your life around it – it could turn out to be a bit of a disappointment. It’s better to organise a few short dates – usually it’s quite easy to tell if you might be interested within the first few minutes. There’s nothing wrong with, say, meeting one dating partner for Saturday lunch, one for drinks in the evening and a third for Sunday brunch. A first meeting shouldn’t be too serious.

DON’T: Inconvenience yourself early on

Beware of agreeing to a date all the way across town for a first meeting. On a first date it’s best to meet him somewhere near where you live or work so that it’s not a major inconvenience. Coffee dates at a nearby cafe during the day are good, because this way you can leave soon if it’s not going too well. If you think it’s not working out then you can simply say something like: ‘I don’t really think there’s a connection, but thanks so much for the coffee.’ He’ll respect your honesty and you won’t have to worry about making him feel bad, as you might do by saying no after a longer date.

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How long do you need before you can tell the person you are dating thinks you are ‘the one’? A year? A month? Just a few weeks?

According to academic journal ‘Archives of Sexual Behavior’, we should be able to tell if the person we are dating is really, really into us in less than 10 seconds, at least if that person’s a man. Because if a man looks into a woman’s eyes for over 8.2 seconds, says the journal, they are smitten.

But while it seems the longer a man looks into the eyes of the woman he’s dating, the more interested he is, the same is apparently not true of the fairer sex…

The research:

Researchers used hidden cameras to track the eye movements of 115 students while they met and spoke to actors and actresses. They then asked the students to rate how attractive they found the person they were speaking with.

The results:

The study revealed a stark difference between the men and the women who were tested.

The men in the study held a woman’s gaze for an average of 8.2 seconds if they found them beautiful, going down to just 4.5 seconds on average if they did not find them particularly attractive.

Women, however, looked at their male counterparts for the same amount of time whether or not they found them attractive.

Why the difference?

The researchers concluded that while men use eye contact to look for fit and fertile mates, women are more wary of attracting unwanted attention since they can risk unwanted pregnancy and the potential to become a single mother.

What we think:

It’s all very well trying to measure how long the person we are dating is looking at us, but other environmental factors could be at work which might lead to a big misunderstanding if we take this research too seriously when dating.

The problem with this outcome…

While a non-stop gaze might be one way to tell if the man we are dating is in love, a continuous stare for more than eight seconds can come across as a little unnerving for a woman (count it out – eight seconds is actually a really long time to look into someone’s eyes).

And what about if you’re a woman who wants to show the man you’re dating that you’re interested? Evolution seems to have removed our ability to give naturally clear signals in case we might attract the wrong type of mate.

How to give the right cues if you like someone

Body language is a really good way to show how you feel, whether you are a man or a woman. A simple touch on the arm or, if you’re a man, a touch on the lower back to lead your lady through the door, for example, speaks volumes.

Small bits of physical contact give a strong signal to your dating partner that you feel comfortable in their presence and perfectly prepared to relate to them physically – a great start for a more informal kind of relationship.

Smiling is another great way to show you enjoy the company of your dating partner and it’s easy to forget to do this if you’re concentrating too hard on making a good impression with your words – in this situation, actions really do speak louder.

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